This is caused, by the dual standards of what’s expected of the child at home and at school, and, schools are more demanding, than the home here, so…off of the Front Page Sections, translated…
A lot of parents share the similar sentiments of how their young performed perfectly well in school, but, as they’d arrived home, they’d, changed to the exact opposite, and, the matter of feeding is the most difficult for the parents to, handle, in school, the child could empty his bowl and plate of foods, but, at home, the parents had to, chase the children, like the game of cops and bandits. How do we guide the children?
A famed physician recently posted on the matter on FB, “This means that the child is developing normally in her/his cognitive abilities, knowing that in school, s/he doesn’t rule, but the home is her/his, territory. And can already tell, who they need to suck up to.” the physician’s humorous words, got all the parents’ agreeing to him.
The Montessori instructor, Lin said, school teaches children to live in groups, with the goals of setting up a normal routines of life, the children have a set schedules, and they would, model after one another. As the children go home, they knew there are the rules that they can break that they will get away with, that, would be the reason why the parents feel that the child behaves her/himself perfectly in school, but, run around like psychos at home.
The All-Early Childhood Association chair, Yang said, that the rules of the home must be the same as the rules from school, to NOT let your young feel that there is a huge difference of the two, for instance, as the students are made to sit still at mealtime at school, then, when the children eat at home, they should NOT be allowed to run around.
He’d observed, that a lot of parents are fearful of disciplining the children, but, the children will know, that the rules set for them, are a show of love, that without these rules, then, it becomes, spoiling.
If the parents don’t know where to start, but are often, angered by their own young, Yang suggested, that the parents can hold a conference with the instructors from the children’s schools, how are the rules set up for the children to follow in school. For instance, are there rituals to before eating, some of the classes, they would sing a song before meals are served, and the parents can start doing that at home too.
the child, at school…
Lin, the Montessori instructor stated, that if the child won’t eat the meals, then, the parents can inquire what was going on in school? Did the child get too many snacks in the afternoon, that s/he isn’t, hungry? And, just like in the school setting, setting up the rituals of life at home is important as well, for instance, a set time for the meals, so the children feel that they have a guideline to follow.
But, the parents need not overly worry, Yang said, that children DO behave differently when they’re in school and when they come home, because, home is where the child feels most relaxed, so long as you have the rules set up, to NOT make the child feel, that the standards are too different.
And so, this is the early childhood years, the school is different than at home, because, at school we are made to follow these rules set for the whole group, eat at a certain time, naps at certain time, story time, etc., etc., etc., that’s establishing order in a young child’s life, but, at home, the parents would more than likely to slack off, and that’s why the parents feel that the children are behaving themselves differently, that they’re better behaved when they’re in school, but when they come home, it’s a totally, different, story.
The key here is to make sure that the rules you set for your young is set up firmly, no bending the rules, unless there are some sort of a special condition.
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