How that passion from when you were first in love, switched to, feeling comfortable, in one another’s, presence, how now, as you two age, you can’t live, without each other in life now, on how the love between the two of you, metamorphosed, in the path of your marriage together with each other, translated…
My wife and I are two poles of the Libra balance, I’m outgoing, loving the loud noises, with that need to win at everything, she’s introverted, enjoyed being alone, gentle, and mild-mannered; I’d loved to have the beers from time to time, and must have meats, she’d been a vegan a long, long time. Although we are totally different in nature, personality, and our preferences, because we’d taught at separate universities, we’d lived in two places, without children, plus we’re both, busy at work, only on the weekends, do we have the time to get along, and, although we’d still fought from time to time, we’d both, cherished the time we shared.
Two years ago, we’d filed for early retirement, and, bought a small chunk of land in Pingdong, and start out as farmers, and, after separating too long, we finally had time to get together now, no longer are we a weekend couple. As the epidemic hit really hard back in May, I’d lost my chance of gathering with my group of friends.
By mid-July, I was, vaccinated, on the day, didn’t feel a thing, but the following more, I’d started, aching all over, and can only, stay in bed. My wife made breakfast for us, and we ate in bed together, and she’d suddenly asked me, “being married to me for so very long, do you not feel, bored?”, I was stunned, and, it took me five minutes to reply, “it’s fine, used to it!”, and, after a few minutes, as I’d, digested what she’d asked me, I’d, taken her hand in mine, told her, “Zhuangzi said, the love is plain like water, actually, in a relationship of a husband and a wife, it’s so too.”
She looked, confused, I’d continued explaining to her, “the economists loved using water to explain things, the purpose of water is worth way, way more than its value, we can’t live without it, but, because of how water is provided in huge amounts it’s, cheap, and naturally, we take it for granted too easily.” She’d immediately barked back, “there are those who loved alcohol more than water!” I’d responded, “I loved how aromatic, how rich the wine, but there’s no way I can drink it daily; although water tasted plain and bland, I can’t, live for a day without it. It is exactly like so with a couple, but, after awhile, you’d, gotten used to the ordinariness of day to day living, and you’d, started, enjoying these days of ordinariness; I’d loved to drink the wines every now and then, but I can’t have a day, without my water………”
She’d, interrupted me, handed me a glass of water, told me, “you’re still feverish, and can only have water.” I took the glass from her hand, unwillingly, took a, tiny sip, it’s quite interesting, the water tasted, a bit, sweet on the day.
And so this, is how the two of you are now, as you advanced into your marriage, there’s not the heated up passions, but the ordinariness of day to day living together, of being there, to support one another, through whatever it is that the two of you are going through in life, and that’s the metaphor of water and wine, with love and relationship. Wine tastes good, but you can’t have it every day, while water doesn’t taste anything, but you can’t, live without it, for one day.