A “mutual ground” for the divorced couple, set up by the city government, to ensure good relations with each other, so they can become, more fitting parents to their young! Off of the Newspapers, translated…
In the past two years, there were more than 50,000 couples who’d filed for divorce, in recent three years, there were on average more than 60,000 who’d gone to court to change the custody of their own young, the head of Social Services, Chang stated, that if the divorced parents had been in opposition with one another long-term, it would cause the children unimagined damage, the city set up the “Letting Go Gardens” through the mediations of a third-party, allowing the divorced parents can become, “cooperative, parents” to their children.
Chang said, in the process of the divorce, because the child would be affected by the parents’ conflicts, arguments, etc., etc., etc., the children are at a bad place, and normally, the children would feel sad, anxious, fear, even blamed themselves, and they are in need of both parents’ companionship and care, and so, the city of Hsinbei worked with multiple facilities, and, set up the community centered family affair counseling, hoping to assist the parents in their marital conflicts.
There was a last year preschool child, every time he was there in the facility with the social workers, he’d needed his mother there with him throughout the process, to the point when he spoke with the social workers, he’d, looked at his mom, kept stating, “Don’t see dad anymore!” and every time the father showed up, the child would start screaming, until the supervised visits were halted.
a photo of this, “mutual ground”…
The director of Letting Go Gardens, Lin said, there are a lot of children who witnessed their parents’ physical conflicts, and they’re worried that meeting up will get them to engage again, the social workers would talk to the parents individually on the stress their child felt, to help the parents think, if they should continue to duke it out in court, that it would only make them hate one another more, damaging the child in the future even worse.
Lin said, that there was a couple who lives in Luzhou, after the visits of Letting Go Gardens for more than half a year, through their own mediations, they’d, reached an agreement, once the social worker was walking on the streets and bumped into them, found that the parents were having a good time, with their young, shopping and dining together, and the smile on that child, was the best reward for the social workers.
So, this, is a needed service, especially with the divorce rates hiking up, and, the parents don’t know it, but, their kids are in the middle of that war of theirs, whether they like it or not, because, no matter what, the kids will, be affected by the way the two of you interact with each other, and even IF you two put on that nice-front with each other, your kids are still, going to know that something’s up with mom and dad, and this place, it gives the parents, that neutral place, that mutual environment, to come together, to discuss things, less emotionally, and their kids are, better off because of the services offered by this place.