Trial by error, in your methods of approach, working with this boy who couldn’t express his upset verbally to the outside world yet, translated…
A just started teaching as a teacher’s aide for special education in an elementary school, seeing how the special eds instructor lost her temper, started screaming at the children who’d not behaved themselves, she thought, that this, was the, normal way to teach students with special needs.
Of the students, there was a little boy, who acted out more often than others, he’d often, hit others a lot, and the children who were hit by him all, came to tell on him. And, A did what the special eds instructor taught her to, started screaming at the boy for him to stop, grabbed the young boy by the arm, warned him in a serious voice: “if you hit again, you won’t have any food at lunch!”, then, that boy with the violent tendencies grabbed her on the arms, refused to left go, causing her to bruise on both arms. This happened, repeatedly, it’d, troubled A very much.
One day, that little boy went crazy again, and started hitting other children, started hollering, running around the class, she’d suddenly had an inspiration, she’d, embraced the boy in her arms, patted his back gently, asked, “you must be really angry, that’s why you are, hitting other kids, can you tell me what’s happened?”, the boy refused to say a word, still full of anger, started trembling all over, started screaming, hysterically. But, after a few times of trying to soothe him, to calm him back down, he’d slowly, calmed, down.
And slowly, the little boy stopped getting physical with the other children, and he’d, shared the things that’s happened in his life A on his own. At that very moment, she’d finally understood, that for children who lacked the verbal skills to express how he’d felt, can only use his fists, to work with a child like this, a lot of patience, tolerance is, needed, instead of getting violent on him, and once the child received the love and trust and attention he’d needed, he will become, more and more, stable, and mature too.
And so, this, is how things happen trial by error, because the methods you’d used didn’t work, and it’d not worked up until now, so, you’d, thought up of another, totally different way to connect with this young boy who couldn’t quite, verbally express his needs, his feelings to the outside world, and, you’d, made him feel safe with you, and that’s why, that young boy started, behaving himself better, because he was then, understood, by his, teacher.
Life, the Obstacle Course 