Trying to, be on, the SAME page, in your, parenting, when one of you parent, the other, stay OUT of it, and, staying, consistent with your children, as best, as you, can…translated…
“Is nobody going to admit to it? Then, everybody doesn’t, go to bed! Stand against the wall, all of you!”, my husband’s screams came from the living room, I’d, lightly, closed my door, not that I am afraid of the noises, but I might, break into the scene, to bail my children out of trouble again. Although, I’d wanted my house to stay tidy, and knew the importance of setting the rules, but, for an illustrated book that didn’t get put back onto the shelves, sacrificing three young children’s sleep, and their quality of learning in the mornings, let alone, breaking the closeness of father and children…………I’m thinking, that there’s, a much, better way to handle this matter.
But, I’d, held my self, back. The experts’ words rang in my mind, I’d told myself, that we need to be on the same page in parenting, and, as my husband exercised his right to parent, I should, offer him, nothing BUT support, whatever the problems, we can, communicate later. And just like that, I’d, stayed in my bedroom, thought of which ways to use, how to, convey to my husband, that there is, a better way, to teach my children. Close to eleven, the night, quieted down, and, I’m thinking, that my children who were, disciplined were, already, fast asleep, until, outside my door, came the gentle sobbing noise.
I’d opened up, and saw my three young children, fearful, close to the walls, while my husband already, asleep, to snoring, and I’d, released, these three little, “inmate” in “court”, and, my husband who was waken up by my shaking him, sleepy eyed, and, explained himself, “didn’t I tell them to THINK about what they did, then come and, wake me up? I’d, already, slept for a full round already…………”
Dearest children, I want to take the advantage, to tell you guys, a couple of things.
First, the adults CAN, make mistakes too, and, as things are clearly, heading down the wrong tracks, do, stray from the rules, and, no matter what, protecting yourselves, that, is the first thing you need to do.
Secondly, mom wants all of you to have independent thinking skills, only through understand the problems, can you, resolve them. The purpose of punishing you guys to stand facing the wall is to for your guys to calm down, to think about what you’d done, not the enforcement of the punishment measures, if you can think about this, then, you guys can come up with a working solution, for your dad to parent you better, as well as for you guys, to learn to behave better the next time.
Third, there are, different kinds of people in this world, and an assortments of ways these people express themselves. No matter how close, how distant, they may not use the methods you’re, familiar with, or preferred, to communicate with you, and we can’t always stay by you guys forever, to offer you advices, or, to lessen the impacts of your falls. But I believe, that one day, you all will, take charges in your own lives, to resolve the assortments of obstacles that get in your, ways. Life is, one try after another, and another, and, another, until you’d, practiced your skills enough, learn to, live with the obstacles that come your ways in your own lives.
And so, to prevent one of you from always being the good cop, the other one, the bad cop, you two had, agreed to, let each other take charge, and not intervened, and this is a good method, but, sometimes, one adult may neglect to realize, that these children are still young, that punishment, and reasoning with them is NOT the way that worked, sometimes, the parents must, learn to, change their methods, in the, various situations they come face to face with in parenting.
Life, the Obstacle Course 