Don’t use being raised in a single-parent family AS an excuse of WHY you can’t! Translated…
With the changing facets of the society, we may find, that the family makeups are no longer, as what it used to be. Of the children who just started school, there may be more than a-fifth of whom who are from single-parent families, we can say, that this is a sort of a “norm” of the families of today now. In the life courses of the elementary school years, there was the single-parent family states added to the list of the different sorts of families we need to know about.
And yet, the society gets, used to, “labeling” those whom we just, met, helping us to understand those who are, different than we are. The children from single parent families were often labeled as “not good in interpersonal skills”, loners, and, in the news media, a lot of the criminals were, from single parent families. And, there’s, that link of “becoming a criminal” with “being raised in a single-parent home”, but, is it, really, so? Let’s see the children who came out of, single parent households.
The former American president, Obama was not only raised by his single mother, but also, raised by his, grandparents. His mother at eighteen, married his father, Barack Sr., but after they started having children, senior abandoned his family, went to Harvard to pursue his doctorate in economics. During the daytime, Barack was cared for by his maternal grandparents, while his mother continued finishing her studies in the University of Hawaii. Later, his mother remarried to an Indonesian international student, and started a brand new family.
illustration from UDN.com
The former C.E.O. of Apple, Jobs, Tesla’s Musk, along with Bezos of Amazon, they are all, from single parent families. Jobs wasn’t even from a single parent families, his father didn’t love him, nor had his mother, he was given up for adoption since birth. While Bezo’s mother got pregnant with him out of wedlock, then, married his stepfather. While Musk’s mother, got divorced after living under domestic violence, and raised him up on her own.
Musk’s mother, Maye Musk recently published a book, “A Woman Makes a Plan”, and wrote about her own life, it’d become, a bestseller across the world. Musk’s mother met her father in high school, after they married in 1970, had three children, the eldest is, the famous, Elon Musk. And yet, her husband was violent, and her marriage only lasted, nine years.
The single mother moved back to her hometown of Toronto, Canada from South Africa where she formerly lived, with three young children, to help them through, she’d once worked, five jobs. Busying at work, Maye never gave up her on her own dreams, continued in her studies, marched toward her own dreams, caring for her young, and at the same time, working on her master’s, and established a career of her own. “As my kids watched those who were working hard around them as they grow up, they’d come to understand, that the harder you work, you will be, even more, blessed too.” What’s cause the bad lucks is not the single-parent family backgrounds, but how one refuses to work hard.
Or maybe, we are not all Obama, Jobs, Bezos, or Musk. But, this helps us understand, the children coming out of single parent families are varied, so long as the children maintain an intimate relationship, a close connection with the person who’d raised them, as the person who’d raised these children are hardworking and optimistic. As a happy single parent, having that positive thought, establishing a good relationship with one’s own young. And because the children from the single parent households are lacking in resources, they may mature earlier, seeking out their own independence, and find their own ways to success in their own, lives.
And so, this still showed??? Oh yeah, STOP using your @#$%ED (maxed out!) childhoods, AS a sorry excuse for why you can’t do better in life, stop using this as an excuse, of why you’re not, getting what you want out of this life, because you can strive, break out of the backgrounds, you were, born into, if only, you are willing, to work hard, to overcome your own lives’, obstacles.