How do we cope, when our children start having sex with their boy or girlfriends, that, would be the MILLION-DOLLAR question for ALL parents out there, isn’t it? Translated…
Awhile back, my friend, A called, she was in a really bad mood. Because she’d found a used condom at her daughter’s dorm.
A has two children, both girls. She’d, carried them in the palms of her hand, and cherished them very much, and they’re finally in university now. And yet, recently, she’d found used condoms in her daughter’s dorm room. A is conservative, her husband was her first love. In his eyes, children should NOT be involved romantically, until AFTER they’re out of college, and, the men they have sex with would be, their, husbands. Because to her, the intimacies is synonymous with the risks of having children.
But, because of how she was tried in her relationship with her mother-in-law, she’d told her daughters, that they don’t necessarily need to get married. That they should take after me, economically independent, started traveling around the world before the outbreaks started.
After I’d heard her point of view, I’d, smiled. “You can’t demand that your children’s spouses just, sit on your couch in the living room, can you? If they’re not married?” there are a ton of females in this society, being given a ton of room and space. Even for those with the glass ceilings, most girls are highly educated now, with their own ways of keeping themselves well, and marriage was no longer the “long-term meal tickets” for modern day women, nor was it the ultimate goal of love.
what she’d, found…
Before marriage, or maybe, having a long-term, stable relationship with both sides committing, having more time to be with each other, this isn’t, a bad idea either. In a relationship, sex is something, that people can’t, ignore completely.
I’d told her, dearest A, actually, you need to give commends to your daughter, for she used the condom, she knew how to protect herself. While enjoying the ecstasies from having sex, she’d, respected the other life. While the reason why she’d not said anything to you, it’s solely due to how in a traditional family background, the subject of SEX just, doesn’t, come up at all. But, don’t see her as bad. Maybe, it would be difficult, to discuss this matter with a woman past her fifties who’s only had one partner. I wanted to tell her too, that finding one other to love, it’s, something of a blessing, and something that was, hard to come by. For the girls, getting bruised and bumps in the path to love, rather than telling them to not do anything, instead, to teach them, to experience, to enjoy, and to grow in the processes, that’s more important, isn’t it?
And so, you can see why this daughter kept what she was doing with a guy from her own mother, because the family is strictly, traditional, but, those age-old values of staying virgins until we marry ourselves off are now, OUTDATED, in today’s society, besides, as those hormones raged on, you can’t possibly PROHIBIT your adult children from DONING IT, all you can do, is to provide them with the accurate information, on how they can, protect themselves better IF they go ahead in doing it. And this daughter had, mastered that already, she KNEW to protect herself, with a CONDOM.