How the world is, SEXIST, due to gender stereotypes, translated…
Because there are the multiple options of status of life, there are more and more choices for marriages. Mothers and fathers can raise their children up alone on their own, at the same time, the child can also be raised by two fathers or two mothers, and adoptions work too. There are over 850,000 single parent homes, and, the rate of underage children from single parent families are on the rise, and this became, the way of life for a lot.
The stereotypical single-parent households are mostly composed of mothers, and there are rarely any discussions on single fatherhood. And yet, what is the percentage of the single fathers raising children? Close to forty-five, almost half. But, there are still, not enough research, sympathies, understandings, discussions on the matter of single fatherhood as opposed to single motherhood, and this made me wondered.
Later in the process of thinking on the matter, I’d slowly understood how the workload had been split by gender. We tend to turn the father figures mechanical. And the term “Toolman” meant the one who’s always giving in to the relationship constantly, but not getting enough in return. And the way this happens, is by driving the kids to and from school, fixing the computers, moving, giving the presents, etc., etc., etc., all of these practical means of giving, you’d spent your energies, money, or even, labor too, but, you’d not gotten anything in return from the recipient emotionally.
The traditional beliefs of man work out and women keep the houses, and men became the ones carrying up the household economics, and we’d, made the male gender mechanical. We’d, estranged the males, stripped them of their emotional expressions, then, we’d, labeled the emotionality of women, and, interpreted the female gender by their emotional expressions, and turned them into, beings of emotions, and stripped them of their “mechanical side’, although women can make the money, using their wages, and labor too, to help keep a family well.
In the reality, this would cause the single father to look both the “tool” and the “emotional” sides of identity. Not used to expressing themselves, not used to seeking help, from the Zhonghwa Single Parent Assisting Association, there are only about a-tenth of the single father who would be willing to accept the assistance from the social welfare foundations.
We’d treated our fathers as “heroes”, and we couldn’t call out when times got tough, we must, swallow everything in, and, if we sought out help, the outside world interpret us as weak, and useless, and the environment is not the least bit, friendly one bit.
I’d read a sad news once, a single father who worked as a delivery truck driver kept his two-year-old young daughter locked up on the second floor, and would use a rope and a bell tied to a plastic bottle, to deliver the foods to his child through the window. And the two-year-old young child couldn’t use any eating utensils, and used her hands to eat, and, she eats where she goes to the potty. And the unsanitary living environment caused the young child to fall ill, and she’d started getting fussy, alerted the neighbors, and that’s when the social services, finally, stepped in.
The father who’s a delivery driver wouldn’t seek out help, because of his ego, and at the same time, he probably feared that everybody would look down on him if he did. At the verdict, the single mother can cry aloud how much they wanted for the alimonies, and demanded that the men pay for the care of their own young by the month. But in the cases of single fathers, there are, rarely any fathers who’d asked their ex-wives to help with the support of their young.
Single fathers don’t receive the child supports, and rarely received any social welfare assistance, most of the single fathers, in seeking out assistance, they were, hurt again——“why do you need social welfare, you’re able-bodied?” “Why are you so picky, you should be glad to have a job!” as single father’s asked for help, the world would feel that they’re, good-for-nothing, too lazy, not hard working enough, that’s why they’re, seeking out assistance, that they’d not done their jobs well as “tools”.
Or maybe, as we pay attention to the subject of single parenthood, we should, care more about the single fathers community, so the children who are raised by single fathers can also, grow up as best as they can.
So, this is still, SEXIST! Because we automatically assign that tough, that I’m strong stereotypes to men, that’s why as they are in need of assistance, they couldn’t ask for help, because, this, is how the world separates us, but when a woman asks for help, she’s, accepted, but, not so much so for a man.