On a boy’s gender-orientation, in this, modern day world, where there’s other, “specifications” of heterosexuality, the discussion of gender-orientation, gender preferences, with the stresses of everybody IS equal, translated…
At the age of, around five? The young boy, Lo started, liking the color pink. Even to this day, at age ten, the young Lo still made pink his first-choice of color as he’d selected the items. And so, there are, those, bystanders (they’re, strangers who’d, passed by us) who’d always inquired: you are a little boy, how can you select pink to wear? And, as an adolescent, Ms. Lo once loved pink during a year of elementary career, and ever since, her “darkness of life” continued on, to this very end, without, any, end in sight.
I’d never worried, that my children’s choices of favorite colors would impact their lives, instead, I’d, not wanted the adults to affect their young on choosing the colors based off of what’s stereotypical of the genders, to affect their knowledge of understanding the differences of the sexes.
In the past, the parents were too shy, or believed that there are, more important matters, (like the grades), to teach their children. But, in this, ever changing world now, the children needed to have a more advanced skill set, to be better off as adults than we’d, become.
One of the very important course was gender education. Through the positive learning methods, we can get to know ourselves better, learn to respect others who are, different than us, and accept that there are those, who aren’t, like us. Because we need to learn about, not just those, simplified versions of differences between the sexes, or sexual harassments, or bullying, that’s just on the surfaces, we need to go into depth in our understandings of the various sexual orientations, the traits, and the identification, to create the beliefs, then the environment of gender equality. And yet, these sorts of education in school, would NOT alter the children’s sexual orientation, “turn” them into homosexuals, but for them to gain a better understanding of themselves, as well as, others too.
illustration from online
So, I need to call out to the Parent Foundation of Multiple Education Method’s Gender Equality advocate, Yu-Hua Lee, for her to share with us, her role as a mother, in teaching her children about the sexual orientations with her kids, and how she is, implementing what she’s teaching to them in real life!
As a sponsor of the parent association who advocated for the multiple gender-orientation, thank you, Chiao-Yi, for allowing me to share my “level of worries”, how I got everybody in the family to move along with me, to make all our lives healthier, and more, active too.
I’m joking on the hurried part, but, we are, putting the organic untainted, condiments of gender equality in all aspects of our, day-to-day living, allowing me, the mom, dad, my children, my friends and families, and everybody in the neighborhood, live together harmoniously, like the blending together of the colors of the rainbow.
Before I married my partner, I’d found that he was often, mistaken for a woman, how he’d, loved purple, with a heart of a child, very observant in nature, actually, I was, very glad, because compared to my open and outgoing nature, he’s more, lowkey and gentle, and thoughtful, when I got angry, he’d, tolerated me, when I became lazy, he’d, worked hard, he was, a moldable material on the matter of “gender equality in a marriage and childrearing”. On our wedding banquet, I’d even announced to all our guests, that I’m not the one who’s going to squat at home, clean and cook, he’d encouraged that women with the capabilities, didn’t need to take the roles of a housewife, unless it’s, out of our own, choices.
Surely, after the birth of our firstborn child, he’d cleaned up the house, like he was, a neat freak, a germaphobe, the laundry, doing the dishes, it all became, his, responsibilities. As he’d gone on trips for work and wasn’t at home, I’d, taken over the laundry and the chores, and my son would make fun said, “Mommy’s learning to do the laundry like daddy, I think, you’re, doing all right, mom………” or, as he saw me doing the dishes after the meals, he’d stated matter-of-factly, “isn’t dad the one responsible for the dishes? Mom, go away, go work on your drafts!”
A little over a year after our second child was born, my partner started handling being out-numbered, for almost an entire day, feeding our children, playing with them. There’s, no, set stereotypes in our families of what mommy or what daddy can or should do, only what mom and dad loved doing, what they can do, what they have the time to do, or, what they choose to do, to switch up the schedules of household chores, work, and other activities around the house.
Our unclassic personalities, plus the unstereotypical measures of parenting roles, because of our sensitivities of the matter on gender equality, same-sex marriage and other issues, and researches, our family tried to incorporate it into the children’s lives, collected the volumes of illustrated books, readers.
Not only do we, use the stories of others in the illustrated books, but the examples of our lives, we’d, used the various things that we encountered in our lives together, to make the conversations stick, we’d hoped, that the kids can, get a taste of everything they encounter in their lives.
Like someone who’d always made us doubt life, an unknown stranger (the worker at McDonald’s) would inquire, “are you a boy or a girl? So I can know which toy to put into your happy meal.”, I’d, told the individual fittingly, “it didn’t matter what toy you put in, so long as it’s, fun to play with! We’re not, gender-specific!”, and told my children, “he may be asking what you like to play with, like when you loved catch, he’ll, give you a ball, or if you liked puzzles, he can, give you, a set of blocks.”
Or as pedestrian B (a clothing store clerk) asks, “how can you choose pink, you’re a boy!”, I’d tell the person, “it’s so limiting, dressing them up based off their genders, when the colors right, you get to, sell a shirt!”, I’d turned to my child and told him, “you got good taste! This pink shirt will make you look energetic!”
Actually, using the means of “gender equality” as the basis to build up a community, the adults needed to train themselves, to teach themselves, to search for the organizations online, to find the proper resources, to share a list of books to read up on, to have the book club meetings; and, in life, invite the speakers for the talks, hosting the seminars in the communities, naturally, adding in the various parent-child illustrated books read-together sessions too.
In structuring of the environment of gender orientation equality, the parents need to focus on discussions of their own gender orientation, along with knowledge of one’s own young’s, to know ones’ own gender orientation, to define sexual harassment, sexual bullying, to NOT avoid discussing these topics as taboos, because, “knowledge and wisdom equal power”., the more we’d understand, the less likely we’ll get blinded by fear and ignorance, “the judgments and thoughts are the clear mirror”, the more we looked into it, the less likely we’re going to get, confused by the fake news.
Whether it be homosexual but not marrying, same-sex couples with children, raised by the mothers together, with just one mother, tomboys, cross-dressers, transgendered……………the children in our homes are, lucky to have a ton of love in this environment with a ton of love provided to them, and, these children have all the love they will ever want and need.
In the past, parents have difficulties talking about the matter of gender, or believed that having the kids make better grades academically is more important, but, holding the core values of “gender equality tolerances” will help us raise our own young into more mature, more intelligent, better than our generations, happier, healthier, adults.
And so, this, is on the advocacy of getting the children to understand about same-sex marriages, and, there was a vote awhile back, on whether or not the children should start learning about these varied sexual orientations in their elementary school years, and, this just showed, how the world is now, more open, a bit more, accepting, to those who are, different, and this, is a good thing!