Saving up on the Love When We’re Younger, in Our Elderly Years, We’d Be Looked After

Written by a neurologist of a hospital, on how important it is, to establish that bond of parent and children when we’re still, younger, from the Front Page Sections, translated…

I see many elderly patients in my clinic, those accompanying them were mostly, their own young, but, this day at my regular clinic, the laughter that came, was, quite rare, the patient was an elderly father, the family who’d accompanied him, was his daughter, as she saw me, she’d started, making fun, “Dr. Nai-Jing, you’d become, prettier each and every time we see you!”, the elderly dad sitting close stated angrily, “You’d, taken all the words out of my mouth, what do I have to say then?”

Suddenly, the clinic was, filled with laughter, and, I’d sighed, before my treatment session with the elderly was over, “You are, really close to your father!”, then, the family member immediately corrected me, “Doctor, you’re, mistaken, I’m his, daughter-in-law”, she’d, added, smiling on, “but, he is, my dearest father, loved me, more than my own father!  I love him!”  seeing how surprised I was, the elderly dad told me, “I’d, loved her like she was my own daughter, I love her, more than my own daughter!  Look, I’d, gained, an extra daughter!”

After the father and daughter-in-law left, came another elderly, this time, it was an eighty-seven-year-old woman, with her own daughter who’d accompanied her.  The daughter wasn’t happy one bit, as she came in, she’d, started, complaining to me about her older brother and sister-in-law, “Dr. Chen, my mom’s very elderly, and she still needed to cook for herself.  Why is a good person like my mom, so tried in her life?”, there’s, the feeling of resentment that filled up her tone, and I can only, smiled, and try finding a solution, if the family needs someone to cook, to help take care, they can find one, so long, as the problems, get solved.

After the sessions, I can’t help but thinking about these two families, how could there be such a huge difference.  Perhaps, every household has its, separate shares of hardships, but I believe, that “the causes of yesterday, is the results of today”, as parents, how they’d, interacted with their younger generations when they are younger, naturally, affects how they will be, interacted with when they’re older, and in need of care.

As we get close to the super elderly community, in order to make sure everything is smooth in our old age, we must, think more when we were younger: other than saving up some money for our own elderly care, we need to, start, saving up on the interactions with our loved ones, so we can, use that positive way of relating to, of interacting with, our loved ones, to set up that nice flowing relationship between our friends, and our families too, hoped that everybody, as s/he becomes elderly, can have the blessings of sharing their elderly years with their loved ones, friends, as well as, families.

And so, this showed, how important it would be, for you, parents, to START focusing on taking care of your young, emotionally, psychologically, NOT just financially, because, if you don’t socialize with your children when they’re little, if you’re NOT there when they need you the most, what the FUCK (feel free!) makes you think, that when you’re, old and GRAY, they’re, going, to give a SHIT, huh?  They won’t, not if you do it first, besides, NONE of us, children, ASKED to be brought out into this, god damn, FUCKING (slipped again!) world here?

So, BE good parents to your own young, and then, when you’re, old and gray, they just might, reciprocate, I really can’t tell…