From the shrink’s office here, on “salvaging” a marriage, after one of you, strayed, but, is there, really, a need to??? I wouldn’t think so, translated…
The T.V. host, Xiang was caught, kissing a female cohost whom he was buddy-buddy with, and admitted, that he’d, not watched out for the “boundaries”. As the BFFs turned into “my love”, is it, a sign of a marriage on the rocks? The marriage counselor reminds us, that it’s important, for both individuals to have shared interests, and have their emotional needs met by one another, that there can’t be, just the responsibilities toward the marriage, holding the marriage intact.
The therapist, Lin stated, that the first decade after the marriage, is usually the trials of the marriage, because in this stage of the marriage, the structure of the family is still, being shaped up, the couple shared the responsibilities of the home loans, the car loans, as well as, raising of their young, and would, normally neglect the needs of each other, and they’d, started, drifting apart.
And, this is, especially apparent, in families with children, because most women had, shifted gears to the family after they gave birth.
saving a marriage after someone cheated…
In the process of caring for one’s own young, the therapist, Lin believed, that it’d, combined the physical trials, as well as psychological/emotional trials, and, the primary caretaker normally feels drained, and, didn’t have the mind, or energy, to take care of her/his partner, which shifted the gears from the honeymoon phase to a phase of fatigued and boredom, and the two stopped interacting at home, nor, cared about one another, and, that is when, the best friend easily, steps in, and breaks the marriage apart.
Lin said, in order to make your marriages work, both the husband and the wife must note, that they both need to share all the responsibilities of the house, that they should, divide up the responsibilities they shouldered together. And, there shouldn’t be only that sense of responsibilities that’s left between the husband and the wife, there’s, the need for the “Three Key Elements to Help Keep the Love Going”, including “sharing conversations,” “acts of intimacy”, and, “shared common interests”.
Lin stated, that men and women are different, that what affected women more, was whether or not their partners are willing to share their thoughts with them, and whether or not their partners will, take care of how they feel, while for men, they’d, cared more about the acts of intimacy, this, can also, be taken into note, in helping to maintain the love.
Lin said, if your marriage is already at the point of psychological affair, or more advanced affair, you can find a marriage counselor, to help you sort out what exactly happened to the love, and when it started happening, or start rebuilding the lost sense of trust you have in one another, she believed, that if you have the mind, your “marriages can be, saved”.
or, marriage counseling, might work???
Really, I don’t think so, after a betrayal happens, how the FUCK can you, possibly overlook that, huh? And, this, is all, after-the-fact, or, on your ways, to cheat on your spouses, but, if we can all, think more than THREE times (b/c we need to???) before we let go, of ALL our, inhibitions, and give into our separate urges, then, there would NOT be A-N-Y marital failures, divorces, and, so, this is, completely, theoretical, but, totally, NOT applicable, in my opinion.