Getting Along, is it, Harder, than Winning the Lotto?

Every marriage HAS its, share of difficulties, just because you don’t see them, doesn’t mean, that these problems are, nonexistent, translated…

As I gathered with my group of friends, we’d, gotten to a topic: that a statistician once calculated, that for a man, or a woman, to meet the one, the rates are, lower, than winning the lotto.

In the group, Fang was the one we believed to have been married off the best.  Her husband was a second-generation of a rich family, after they wed, they lived in the mansions, rode out in name brand cars, lived on really well, she’s the one, who’d, won the lotto in her marriage, but, Fang shook her head to us, said, that her husband had been, spoiled by his parents growing up, lived without doing anything, is too self-centered, very stubborn, rarely empathized with anybody, it’d made her feel that she wasn’t, respected enough.

We’d also felt, that Ting-Ting was, also one who’d won the marriage lotto.  Her husband is a perfect gentleman, started as a construction worker, built up his own firm, and took her on trips abroad by the year.  But, Ting-Ting was too, dissatisfied with her life, “Those weren’t vacations, we were only there, to see the furniture exhibitions, he’d been working busily!”, her husband kept his career at his top priority, had many trips abroad, she was left alone, caring for her children, and, needed to handle EVERYTHING that happens in her house, she lived like a single mom.

Then, Huei-Huei, she should be the luckiest then?  Her husband took care of her, and, would give her rides to and from work, they’d gone out as a couple every time, and, it’d, envied everybody around them.  But, she’d, poured her heart out too, that her husband was too suspicious, every time she’d gone out, he’d become, like her bodyguard, zoomed in on her; and he was, very awkward, and would often, turn an originally upbeat event, into something that’s like the cold air, and, Huei-Huei would feel embarrassed, and couldn’t speak her mind freely, and, if she’d not allowed him to tag-along, he’d, get angered.

The chit-chat continued, and, NOBODY seemed to feel, that they’d, won the lotto, but, looking at ourselves, we’re, NOT perfect either.  And so, naturally, that old idiom, “keeping your eyes wide open before marriage, and turn a blind eye after the wedding” rings true.  If we can, zoom in on the good qualities of our spouses, and, tolerate their, shortcomings more, show more respect, care and concern for one another, that way, we can, build a good, harmonious marriage together, that’s, going to last.

And yet, this is, easier said than done, because EVERY marriage has its share of problems, and, just because someone else’s marriage looked better than our own, doesn’t mean that it is, better, and this teaches us, to appreciate each other more in the marriage, that we should, be happy with what we have, instead of, keeping wanting what someone else’s has, because, who knows, maybe that someone else you’re envious of, is envying you too!