A woman who’d been, pushed OVER the edge, and she’d, committed murder, and to think, ALL of this, could’ve been, prevented, had the families treated her, with a little MORE dignity, like a fellow human BEING!!! Translated…
At the start of December, there was, a shocking murder in the county of Changwha, an Indonesian woman of about forty, after she’d murdered her own ex-husband and daughter by knife, she’d, turned herself into the police, and because the incident occurred, in the more rustic regions, everybody who’d learned about this was shocked, they found it difficult to believe, that there would be, such a cruel mother, who’d, murdered her own young in cold blood.
As the new media got to it, most of the reports focused on how well-rounded, this female college student had been, she’d made high grades, and was, popular among her peers, that everybody felt awful, that a young life ended, so abruptly. But, something I found that’s, out of the ordinary was, these moms who’d married over from Southeast Asia, once they were, forced to alienate themselves from their originally familiar social circles, and, not getting along with their husbands’ sides of the families, they would, normally, use their young as their sole emotional support. They’d circled around their children, and, most of the migrated people, even if their marriages went bust, they’d not, wanted to lose their children.
I’d often heard those single newly migrated mothers, working so hard, burning themselves out, just to give their own young a better education, took on two, three jobs a day. They don’t have enough time to love their young, and, how much hatred, must be in a woman, to force her to, murder her own, excellent daughter?
Later, there was a news station that dug deeper into the family’s background: the ex-husband was from a well-rounded, rich family, the in-laws owned a motel, he’d owned a betel nut stand, and, this Indonesian mother worked as a maid in the motel owned by the in-laws. But, the traditional families’ beliefs were, deeply rooted, the news story described this mother’s place in the family as “a cleaning lady forever”, not only does she NOT have the authority to TEACH her daughter, her daughter who’d, done well in school had, looked down on her.
In the news, they’d called her “a cleaning lady forever”, that would be a better way of saying it, in my belief, the family treated this Indonesian mother as “a human birthing machine”, as for whether or not you want to stay in the household after you give us an heir, it doesn’t matter (her ex had threatened her to send her back to Indonesia repeatedly, they don’t have ANY sort of a connection whatsoever). From my experiences, the truth that’s unseen behind this murder, may be, that the husband’s family worried, that the excellent daughter may get “dragged down” by her mother’s status of a “cleaning lady”, and so, the family separated the mother and daughter, not allowing them too much time together.
Do NOT think this is extraordinary, this happens, quite a lot in the newly migrated married over people here. Just last year, a second generation of a migrated resident who is at the age of twenty we’d interviewed, she’d, told of how she was, born out of a family atmosphere just like this, (coincidentally, they were, both from the countryside of Changwha). The girl said that the rest of the family didn’t call her mother by her real name, instead, they’d called her “wild woman, Vietnamese lady”, and even, warned her as she was younger, “Don’t get too close to your mother or, you’ll become, stupid like her”. The girl recalled, although her father’s family loved her very much, her Vietnamese mother loved her too, but, the father’s side of the family had absolutely NO emotional connection to her mother. But thankfully, in this bad atmosphere, the girl didn’t learn to look down on her own mother, instead, as she got older, she’d, done all she could, to learn her mother’s tongue, to slowly, patch up what went missing, the relationship she should’ve had, with her own mother.
But, unfortunately, this family with the murders didn’t have this sort of a luck. The daughter, from the very beginning, looked down on her own Indonesian mother, and, that was the last straw for this newly migrated woman, and in the end, she’d, broken down, and committed murder.
Chasing back to the origins, this sort of a tragedy could, damn well be prevented, had the husband’s side of the family treated the woman as a member of their own families, had the mother gotten enough time to spend with the daughter, had the society stepped in earlier, and counseled these newly migrated persons…………I refuse to believe, that ANY mother can actually be so cruel, as to go and MURDER her own daughter. And yet, similar families are, all over around, each and every corner in Taiwan, and, who can guarantee, that something like this, won’t happen again?
And so, this is tracing to the origins of what made this woman finally CRACKED, she was mistreated, even AFTER she managed to give her husband’s side of the family an heir, they’d still, MISTREATED her like she was second class citizen, and that, is a lot of the status quo of the women who married over to Taiwan from the Southeastern Countries such as Vietnam and Indonesia, and we need MORE awareness, MORE education, to prevent this sort of a tragedy from occurring and reoccurring again.