Best friends from before, and now, they are on, separate life paths, and slowly, they are, separating from one another, to eventually, maybe, losing touch completely??? Translated…
It Isn’t that You Wanted to “Break Up” with Your Best Friend, it’s, Just that No Matter How Close You’d Been, Something Has, Bound to Change………
Before You Were Half Way Through Your Stories, Your Best Friend Was Already, Losing Focus
This was, how it’d, happened, once a friend told me, she’d felt that her best friend changed, from before, they’d talked about any and everything with one another, her best friend was the best audience she could, ever have, and, gave her the best advice on dating and interacting with members of the opposite sex, but all of these changed, after she got married and had children.
Simply stated, she was in love with someone, but, unsure if he would be, worth her time, watching how her and the birds of youth already, taking flight, she’d contemplated, should she waste any more of her life on him? Her best friend finally got her husband to agree to let her off for two hours, so she could hear her best friend rant on her life, and yet, before she’s hallway done with her story, before the song’s halfway through, her best friend’s already, losing focus, and started asking repeatedly, “What was that? Can you say it again?”, her friend felt, disappointed, where did the connection they used to share go? Where is that friend that could finish her sentences, the one who’d be there for her no matter what? And now, they can’t, even get to the end of a conversation, and the two hours felt like an eternity.
Although they’d not said anything bad to one another, the meet up ended awfully.
Being there before, I’d also, weathered through “my friend’s changed”, “I will NEVER hang out with all of you, mothers again!”, but as the wheels of time turned, there were, more and more of my friends who’d gotten married and had children, all of my best friends from high school are all on their second pregnancies now, and I’d started to understand: that becoming moms made them less attractive as people, like how Piccachu had, transformed to Raichu.
illustration from the papers online
First of all, having babies, is enough, to give a woman, a refreshed new look on life.
My friend told me once, not mentioning the pain, having to open her legs up in front of completely strangers, and pushing her fetus out, it’d, increased her ability to withstand the shames. As she’d become a mother, there is, this renewal of her knowledge base too, I’d once gotten involved in a gathering of a group of mothers, and, I’d finally gotten to understand, “We’re all speaking in the same language, how come, I still can’t understand you all” felt like, they’d chimed on, like they were all, professionals in a medical conference.
As you’d poured your heart out to a friend who’s a mother, all of these things that impacted you greatly, were probably, lightyears away from where they are. All those butterflies inside their stomachs, already DEAD, from the babies crying all day long, and their husband, who do nothing BUT bring home the pays, and the only thing that aroused them are probably, the talks on genders, how to have amazing sex, because they’d, not felt any passions in the physical or emotional senses in a very, very, very long time.
Don’t Rush to Blame Your Best Friend, the Truth Being, You Weren’t, in the Right Place
Now, let’s, talk about “attires’.
From before I’d done a special column, I’d had the hottie Dani trade places with the geeky woman, Red. Red told me she doesn’t put on enough make up as is, as she’d become a mother, she’d, scrapped it completely, and, there’s, no such fairytales of her standing in front of a mirror, dolling herself up for an hour, then, go out. Before she’d darkened one of her brows completely, her kids are already, crying like the end of the world is nearing, and her husband had, grilled her about it. Putting on the jewelries? Those who’d had children knew, that if you wear anything like these, chances are, they will, become your children’s toys, or worse—food items for your young. As you put on a new blouse, you’d end up, with food remains, or even, vomit on it, and, it’d felt easier to clean off, if you weren’t wearing any clothes.
So, of course your best friend had, changed! From the use of language, the memories of the body, even her soul got, switched out, and naturally, she couldn’t carry on in conversation with you on how come that man never called you back, or, which purse was worth the prices, or which blouse would make your complexion paler. But, don’t go off, blaming your best friend, because, you’d, walked in, to the wrong SETS!
After all of this I’m not telling you, to break up with your best friend, but I’m telling you this: no matter how close the two of you had been, things are, bound to change. There was this line in the animated feature by Miyazaki, “life is a series of trains, driving toward the graves, there are, many stops on the way, there are, rarely anybody who will ride with you all the way to the end. As someone who was with you gets off, no matter how unwilling you are, to let go, you still need to be grateful, then, wave goodbye to them.” Someone might be going at a different pace than you, or going a different direction, but all you can do is, adjust yourself, and then, keep on moving forward, or, wait until the huge wheels of time, to push you along.
best friends separating from each other…
And so, this, is how this best friend felt neglected by her “ex-best friend”, because the other woman got married and started on a totally different track of life compared to this person, and, because the married friend had brand new tasks she needed to handle, taking care of her husband, her children, working around the house, she’d become, detached from the social world that you live in, and naturally, you’d, wondered WHY the two of you are, no longer as close you would like the two of you to be…………
Life, the Obstacle Course 