Kids thrive better and quicker, outside the “systems”, that’s for sure!!! Translated…
As I’d turned in the self-learning report of my child, I’d, let out a long sigh of relief. Such an amazing year this had been! Although in this year of homeschooling, I’d had to accompany my child, and not being able to do what I wanted to do, but, seeing how my child went from unwilling, refusing to learn, to this year’s, enjoying learning, this huge change had, made me feel, that what I’d given up, was way less than what I’d, gained!
This year, my son went back into the system again, every day, he’d had a good day in school. But, a year ago, every time he’d opened up his eyes, the first sentence he’d spoken was, “Mom, I don’t want to go to school today!”
Back then, he’d just, transferred from a private school that focuses on letting children develop freely, into a public school of the systems, from before after school, he’d, only needed to, observe the things in nature, and now, as he’d, transferred, he’d needed to, hasten up, so he can, catch up to the rest of everybody’s paces.
illustration from the papers online
But, the violin teacher had a ton of other students she watches over, she doesn’t have the time to teach him alone. He’d progressed, very slowly, seeing how all the other kids are playing so well, he’d become, defeated, and lost his self-confidence. And during class, as the teacher asked him to play in front of the class, he’d gone, to hide under his desk, refusing to come back out. It’d made the teacher angry, she’d told me, “mom, you need to take your son into a psychiatrist, he’s sick!”
As my son was labeled as being “mentally ill”, it’d, infuriated me so.
When my son was four, I’d taken him to a child psychiatrist to take a test, as the psychiatrist had, finished administering the test, she’d turned to me, said, “Don’t worry mom, your son is mentally healthy, and very cute!”
But now, as this teacher had yet to have my son for a fifth classroom session, she’d told me that my son was, ill.
Why don’t the teachers have the mind, to understand the children, nor are they, professional psychiatrists, and yet, they’re so, hurried, in slapping that label on? Or maybe, it’s because, the teacher had to deal with a ton of students, and it’d, made her/him feel tried?
After thinking the matter over and over, and over, I’d decided, to file for the homeschooling program for my son for a year. I wanted my son, to try and find his own strength back by himself.
We’d found another instructor to teach him violin, and, in her encouragements, he’d become, more and more confident, and, he’d told us, that playing the violin was, fun! It’s such a fun thing to do! Naturally, it doesn’t, make him want to, hide underneath the desks at school.
A year later, my son tested into the music track. Seeing the acceptance letter, not only my son, as his parents, we were both, very happy and proud, and encouraged.
Seeing how my son is now, full of, confidence, I can’t help but feel. That sometimes, we wanted to make the advancements, we’d needed to, take steps backward, and sometimes, just accompanying one’s own young, it’s not a waste of time at all, everything that’s happened in the past, now, and what’s to come in the futures, is the best arrangements that fate’s making for us.
And this still just showed, how the attitudes of the adults, DETERMINES whether or not a young child succeeds in school. This is also why, there’s, this need for individual attention for every child that’s, going to school, but, in the public or private school systems, the teacher to student ratio is what??? One to twenty-five (how the hell should I know???), and, in this HUGE a classroom setting, there’s no way that the teacher (who is only ONE!!!), can possibly, keep an eye on every single child in the room, which is why, many of the children in the classes are bound to be, overlooked, but hey, this is what’s currently going on, in the public, and the private schools all around the world