A mother’s worries, over how her daughter is being discriminated in school, because of her hearing impairments, and there’s, no good way, to cope with this, but to, teach her own young, to NOT care about how others perceived her, but this is, never easy! Translated…
My friend showed me the photo she’d taken in secret as she’d gone to pick up her child, she’d pointed to how the child walked, lethargically, the cochlear implant on her left year became what her classmates picked on her with. Her classmates called her “monster”, “freak”, and wouldn’t be emotionally, “Xiao-Chi is actually, quite optimistic, before she entered into the elementary years, I kept giving her the constructions, to be brave to face the fact that she’s deaf in one ear; finally, she’d made it through kindergarten, but, in the elementary school years, her classmates were, verbally insulting to her repeatedly, and no matter how strong my child is, she’s, bound to, crack! After school these past couple of days, Xiao-Chi kept crying to me on how she doesn’t want to go to school anymore……”
As my friend became really emotional, she couldn’t help, but want to carry the pains for her own young, and wanted to go over to those other ignorant kids, and, punch them hard; but, she knew this wasn’t the way to resolve this problem, she also knew, that if she’d called out the kid that picked on her daughter, another kid may make show the same discriminations against her daughter, that she might directly or indirectly, hurt a child who’s as innocent as her own young, she’s at her wit’s end about what she should do.
being different from everybody else, it’s hard sometimes…photo from online…
Reason why my friend came to me, was because just like her daughter, I too, am deaf in one ear. When I was young, I’d had a high fever, and my parents couldn’t get the help for me, and in the end, they could only, carry me on their backs to the E.R. Back then, the medicines weren’t so advanced, the doctor gave me several shots, and my life was, spared, but, there was, this after side effect for long-term. I’d lost my hearing in my left ear, thankfully, I had the hearing aid, to get me to where I currently am.
I watched how my friend’s heart was breaking for her daughter, I knew exactly what it was like, for a parent, to watch one’s own young suffer, other than consoling her, I can only, accompany her slowly through it, and help her face the trials that came. Because in this society, there are still a lot of people who don’t know how to act toward the handicapped, to love and accept, and empathize with those who are, different.
“Using a hearing aid” is exactly like “wearing glasses. You can’t see clearly, therefore, you’d, needed the glasses to help you see; and when you can’t hear clearly, you’d naturally, also needed the hearing aids to help you hear better, these two are, one in the same. If the adults can, help the children understand, so they can learn to, empathize and use compassions to interact with those around them who are, different than they are, then, there would be, a huge reduction in the cases of bullying.
being bullied because she’s, different…photo from online
I recalled the movie from U.S. I saw awhile back, “Wonder”, there was, a young boy with a weird shaped face, and, as the world looked at him through their own eyes, his parents still, loved him dearly, to help him cope with being bullied every single day of his life. In the end, the little boy gained a ton of new friends, and, received the commencements from his school principal when he graduated too, and it’d, helped him, who’d lacked self-confidence, to open up a huge sky for himself.
In the end, I’d, held my friend’s hand, told her that being a mom is the hardest, and that her child’s had a difficult time too. That perhaps, the other kids didn’t know any better, but, we can teach ourselves, to be a brave person, to disregard how other people wants to, perceive us.
And you CAN see, how trying it must be, for this mother and her daughter, right? The daughter has a cochlear implant, which made her looked different compared to the rest of her classmates, and, at that young an age, children started, fearing those who are different than they are, because they are, socialized to, because they watched their own parents, mistreat those who are different than they are in the world, and so, the only way for this hearing impaired child to cope is, by learning, to IGNORE how other people may perceive her, and it will be, very difficult to, because, we learn to, fear those who appear or act differently than we do!
Life, the Obstacle Course 