Having someone, to share her plans with, that, was what this elderly needed, and now she’d found it, in the nursing home her family had, checked her into, and she’d stopped thinking about making her escape now, translated…
My elderly grandmother finally agreed to move into a nursing home.
She’d become, more and more stubborn as she aged, insistent on how she could, take care of herself, that she’d needed, nobody else to look after her, and yet, she’d, tripped and fallen in her home many times on end, making living alone, very dangerous for her. Although her children had, consoled wither repeatedly on hiring a nurse’s aide for her, or to move her into a nursing home, but they’d always, ended up arguing like crazy, there’s, NO satisfactory way for both to agree upon. But, after grandma had fallen and needed hospitalization, she’d finally, agreed that nursing home was what was, best for her.
Her children did all the homework beforehand, they’d taken a lot of care and concerns, to select the nursing home for her, found one that’s, near the suburbs, with the hills, and quiet environment, with the professional caretakers in the facility too.
And naturally, the first day my grandmother moved in, it wasn’t, pleasant, all the way, she’d, cussed my parents who were accompanying her to move in out, and after they’d checked her in, she’d even, showed the caretakers up, refused to allow them to change her clothes, to bathe her, and poured the food all over the places, refused to comply. The caretaker commented, “Grandma is, quite able-bodied.”
After awhile, the caretaker led my grandmother to her stay from here on out, my mom who was very sharp noted that her roommate was a neighbor from my grandmother’s home, they’d greeted one another, and, slowly, my grandmother’s hardened attitude, got softened down.
Several days later, as my father brought my grandmother’s favorite foods to visit her, and, surely enough, she’d, grilled him again, complained on how her children left there, and already forgot about the agreement she’d made with her children on moving in. But the caretaker told my father, that my grandmother had, adjusted well in these past couple of days, that she’d gotten along well with the other elderly, and became a buddy with her roommate, like she’d, made a friend, as dad heard, he’d, felt a bit, more at ease. And the caretaker, before dad left, told him in a hushed voice, “Grandma has a secret plan with her roommate!”
Turns out, that after grandma made friends with her roommate, they’d been, whispering, secretly planning their “jail break”; they’d planned to quickly get into the elevator, to the first floor, flag a cab down, then, run away while the floor attendant wasn’t looking.
In order to make sure that the plans go smoothly, they’d, rehearsed it by the day, and tried keeping it a secret, but, it still couldn’t, evade the noticing of the caretaker. On the other hand, they’d not, expected that this “jail break” required more than they’d, expected, for instance, they’d needed enough strengths, to pass through the many trials, and they couldn’t be as agile as the characters in “Jail Break”; besides, the nursing home is located half way up a mountain, there weren’t that many cabs that drove by, and even if they’d managed to make it out of the nursing home’s building, it’s easy, that before they were able to flag down a cab, they would get caught. And, this “jail break” was, seemingly, well-planned out, but it’s, actually, harder than hard to work.
planning her escape…illustration from the papers online…
After a week, as my father visited, he’d asked the nurse what happened to my grandmother’s jail break plan? After all, he was still, worried that as she “broke out of jail”, she might injure herself, the caretaker smiled and told him, “It’s over, they couldn’t reach a consensus over the plan, they’d started, giving one another the cold shoulders, the silent treatments a couple of days ago, but now, they’d, become the best of friends again.”
So, this elderly woman merely, needed to set up a plan, to have an “accomplice” in her plans of escape, to make her feel “normal” again, and, after a week, the elderly had, put the thought of escaping out of the nursing home out of her mind, as she’d, slowly, adapted to her life in the nursing homes.