There’s NO need, to envy each other, because EVERY marriage HAS its equal share of problems!!! Translated…
I had a fight with my husband that evening, and I broke down in tears, the very afternoon, I had to head to my best friend’s son’s wedding. During the banquet, we’d, put on that forced smile, he’d kept putting food onto my plate, and my former colleague commended him, “Your husband is so kind to you!”, I’d become, stunned, and I’d, originally wanted to rebut back, “isn’t this, the basics?”, but I’d felt that it was, improper, and tilted my head toward my husband said, “thanks, I’ll eat more”, but, as the banquet ended, what went on between us still didn’t get dissolved, by the celebratory mood of the atmosphere.
Couple of days later, my friends and I met, and that pricy steak, kept us from enjoying our meals, but, the conversation flowed, and, we were, filled up, by the laughter we brought to one another.
a bumpy ride, like this??? Not my photograph…
As we’d, eaten, Cloud received a call, and, her face changed colors, in a few sentences, and, she’d, dodged outside and continued talking. And, we’d all guessed, that it was her unfaithful husband, that loser still called her to borrow money. And, we’d all, told Cloud, to wake up, to sever ALL her ties with him, to not allow him to take any more money from her, but, she’d, just, given him the money repeatedly, she’d divorced him, but was, still, hung up on him, and, he’d, used her, she kept, running into the flames, and, we’re all, very worried over her.
Suddenly, it’d, dawned on me, that all of our family life and marriages, represented the prime time soaps, could it be, that life, is dramatic on its own?
Hua’s husband works in China for over a dozen years, and her son whom she’d raised on her own went away for his university studies too, although, she’s now, free on her own, but, as she’d returned home, all she had, was that light she’d, turned on before she left, she’d felt that scent of loss, especially as it rained. We’d, joked with her time to time, that she might need to, ambush her husband by flying over to China unannounced, she’d laughed dryly, “I’ll keep the money, that ought to be enough.”
And Ping’s husband, when she was forty-one years-old, on the way home from work, died of a myocardio infarction. Ping was in so much pain, she just saw her strong husband out in the morn, and, he won’t be coming home for supper again. Thankfully, her three children needed her still, and she’s, finally, managed her way, through those, lonely nights, she’s now, settled and happy where she currently is in her life now.
illustration from UDN.com…
Jen and her husband lived separately, but how far apart are they? Only a five, six minutes’ ride on a scooter. As the two of them aged, their interests, split up, farther and farther from one another’s, her husband who’s retired, practiced the Buddhist rituals, and, before Jen retired, she’d started going to the activities on her weekends and days off from work, she’s now, worried, that after she retired, could she still, keep up with her own active lifestyle, and leave her husband on his own?
Huei, who’s a year older than I, had never been married, she’d, fallen for a widower, with a ton of undesirable qualities about him. This New Year’s, the man’s mother started referring to herself as her “mother-in-law”, and, set up the menus, demanded that she makes the dishes, and had, gone to Huei’s home unannounced, and demanded that she take her abroad to travel, she has more authority, compared to the real mothers-in-law. Everybody consoled with her, to NOT marry so easily, that this sort of a mother-in-law will become, such heavy burdens later!
Seeing how all my girlfriends, dressed up so pretty, and are all very, independent, clearly, the women who can stand on their own, but, unbeknownst, behind those smiles, there are, so many trials, but thankfully we have each other, to offer the encouragements, the supports, and we will all, walk together, as each other’s best friends, until the very end!
And so, this group of women, all have their separate shares of problems, and, they all have problems in their lives, they have to, deal with, which is why their get-togethers are too important, because it gives them an outlet, to express their upsets, a good place, to pour their hearts out, to dump their trash in…