Until you are in their positions, you have NO right, to comment! Translated…
From before, I’d only known, of people’s trials, as they’d sent their parents or their loved ones into the I.C.U., faced with the decisions of resuscitation or not, and because I didn’t have the first-hand experiences, I couldn’t, know that sense of helplessness that came with being put on the spot to decide.
Because my father’s stroke came without any warnings, he was being resuscitated in the I.C.U., and every time, when there’s the need to make a decision, my brother and I always thought it through thoroughly, consulted the professionals, or asked the opinions of friends and families who’d had similar previous encounters, and so, we were, able to, make the decision that benefitted my father in the life-threatening situations.
My father’s stroke is the embolism kind, as we’d heard from the doctor, that it didn’t have a good prognosis after the surgeries, we were all, shaken up, not knowing what to do. We’d once, gotten stuck, on whether or not to have our father stay in Penghu or getting him treated in a major hospital in Kaohsiung, later, the primary physician showed his professionalism, we’d, decided, to have dad stay in Penghu, to NOT let him, with tubes in and out of his body, going through the hardships of being transported everywhere.
Thankfully for the modern day advances, after the medications started working, my father got a little better, although, he still needed his feeding tubes and catheter in, and, the incisions to get the phlegm out of his lung that hadn’t closed yet, but, he’d become, more and more, spirited by the day, and, his immobilized right side started, becoming more than agile too, it’d made me, ecstatic, I’m grateful, for ALL of the paramedics who’d helped him recover, and for the health insurance policies here.
Although later I’d heard a ton of speculations from the spectators on my father’s conditions, and they’d all, criticized us for not carefully deciding for my father’s sakes, some even stated, “Had his children lifted him to Kaohsiung to get treated, he would’ve, made a full recovery by now!”, and, all of these, “matter-of-fact” commentators, are only saying things at random, without realizing, how much trouble it’d, given us.
I’d told my younger brother about all I’d heard people said, he’d told me, “Don’t care too much about those comments, we should focus on helping dad get better, we must, pray as a family, for dad’s sake.” In the time as my father was getting treated, thankfully, I still had my younger brother who’d, held the same beliefs as I, to help me, let go, of all the noises from all around us.
After having to make the decisions of life or death for our father, my younger brother and I, learned, to face the ups and downs of life, more effectively now.
And this still just showed, HOW annoying those outside “noises” can be! I mean, hello, are YOU the family of this man? Of course N-O-T! So, what RIGHT have you, to COMMENT on what this person’s children had done right or wrong by him? And, how would you know, that you’ll be abele to, MAKE the correct decision for your loved ones, if something like this had happened to you? And after you’d, thought through, the above few questions (and then some!) thoroughly, then, you can, comment on what these people had done right, or wrong by their father!
Life, the Obstacle Course 