What is learned by children at school, not your regular lessons of 1+1, 2+2, or the alphabets, or the phonetic spellings though, translated…
As the whole family is slowly, adapting to the pace of school, my son seemed to have some sort of an understanding of the matter, unlike how in the previous weeks, he’d, dragged on and on, he’d only, stayed in bed an extra five minutes before he got up this morn.
Although breakfasts were prepared at school, and the school told us not to feed them breakfasts (perhaps, they’re afraid that some kids would want the food and others wouldn’t, making it harder, to manage the entire classroom?), but we’d still gotten used to getting him washed up, dressed, having him sit at the breakfast table, we ate our breakfasts, while our son have a glass of his milk, and, we would have, our family conversation time together. I know some of the preschools are supportive of the children’s having their breakfasts at home before coming to school, because, if the breakfasts were eaten at school, then, wouldn’t there be the suppers where the children are, allowed, to share some quality time with their parents?
This morning, I’d, told my son especially, “Stop talking in class, save all you have to say for when you get home, and tell me everything; don’t talk at lunch either, if you were punished to stand up, I’ll feel bad for you; don’t climb up on the chairs, it would hurt real bad if you fell; keep what you can’t finish inside of your own bowl, don’t put it in the other children’s bowls; don’t horseplay with your classmates…………” after I’d ranted, I thought, that schools can be, a bit, more boring.
Before I took him off to school, he’d turned around and said to me, “it’s okay if I were to get punished to stand, it’s only for a minute (his shoulders shrugged).”, okay then, it’s, I suppose, a perk for my son, if he sees things on the brighter side.
It’s just, that after school, he’d, lost his cool. The teacher told me that my son was punished to stand up twice, once for pushing the other kids in front of the sink, the other, as they got their lunches, he’d put his empty bowl on top of his head, the teacher told him, “That’s not allowed!”, I’d felt it was, actually, quite funny, there’s nothing wrong, with an empty bowl over his head, it’s just, that if the bowl was filled with food, then, we’d, have something to worry over, and I’d replied back to the teacher, “oh…”
After the teacher closed the door to the class, my son explained to me, that he was standing in front of the faucet first, that it was the other kid who’d, cut in front, that was why he’d, gone up, pushed him aside, but, the other kid went and told the teacher. “Then, how come you didn’t explain that to the teacher?”, he’d stated, “I don’t know how to tell her.” He’d continued, that there were, two, three other children who’d, put their bowls above their heads, but only he got punished, “perhaps, I have, a bigger head!”, I don’t think so, it’s because, the teacher is, zoomed in on you.
My son pointed toward the two places he was punished to stand on told me, “Standing in these places makes me upset”. Then, let’s do something happy, I took him to the super convenience shops to get some air-conditioning, bought him two drinks that he’d downed too quickly that he was having a headache.
illustration from the papers online…
Before bed, I’d told my son, “You may think that the teachers are unreasonable, that they don’t listen to children, actually, sometimes, the parents can’t even, listen to their own young. We may never meet up with people who can understand us all the time, but we can remember, how it’d felt, to be misunderstood, and as we become adults, we must, be better than how those adults treated us from before, so we can, become better people, and treat our own young, more gently!”
And, this must be an AWFUL experience for this young child to experience, but, he’s now, getting “socialized” to play and work with other kids, and that, is just a part of growing up, and, there are, a TON of unreasonable things that happen in the adult world, that children aren’t ready for, and, there’s, NO way to fully prepare the children, to learn to survive in this world, run by us, the adults, and we can only, give the children, small doses of antidotes on how to cope with these unreasonable situations they may be faced with daily.