Due to the differences in attachment style patterns of children, this, is why this would be, happening, and yet, the parents are still, the CULPRITS who’d, caused this to go on without even knowing it, from the Newspapers, translated…
Jun-Jun (a false name) who just turned three, just entered into preschool, as her parents saw her off onto the school busses, she’d always, started wailing, even rolled around on the ground, and, although the other children would cry to from time to time, but, they’d not melted down like Jun-Jun had, her parents thought this separation anxiety wouldn’t be a problem for but a few weeks, but, it’d, continued on, for an entire month, and, every day, the melt down after goodbye played on, after they took their daughter to see the psychiatrist, they were told, that this, was a serious case of separation anxiety.
The Children’s Early Treatment Clinical Psychologist from Tzu-Chi Hospital, Hsu told, that separation anxiety happens when the infant gets separated from the primary caretaker, or when they weren’t looking at one another, there would be cries, anger, and anxiety that happen.
Hsu said, that about six months into life, the newborn will slowly set up the attachment relationship with their primary caretaker, the infants would get closer on their own to certain someone, mostly, it’s the primary caregiver, the parent, and as these primary caregivers go out of sight, the infant will exert symptoms of separation anxiety, and, as they see the person again, they would act very happy.
like this??? Photo from online…
Hsu said, that separation anxiety is one of the behaviors of attachment, if the children are genetically predisposed, or born with he traits, or had a bad experience with separation from their caregivers, they would then, develop an “insecure attachment style”, which might cause serious separation anxiety.
And so, it’s too important, to learn to set up a good attachment. Hsu said, from the day the child was born, s/he has the ability to receive, and react to the messages from around, they would develop behaviors that coincided with their caregivers, and the caregivers will be able to, decipher what the infants want from them too.
Hsu stressed, that each child has separation anxiety, but the severity is not the same, based off of her experience, the separation anxieties would start to happen at around six months of age, peaking at 14 to 24 months, later, it would, decline with age, but, as the kids started school, then, that, is when the more serious onsets of separation anxieties happen.
and this, would be what a “securely attached” baby looks like…photo from online…
If the child is still not adapting to the environment, with that tenseness, always feared that something bad might happen to their loved ones after four weeks, unwilling to leave the parents’ sides, kept having nightmares, etc., etc., etc., then the parents should pay more heed, there may be the need for early assessment, before age six, this can be treated through behavioral therapy, game therapy, and early intervention programs with the parents, to set up the better emotional attachment connection.
And so, this, is more common than you think, and, because of how common this may be, a lot of parents would just, overlook it, and, like the psychiatrist stated, if this wasn’t managed well, then, it would, continue to impact a person’s life even AFTER s/he grows into adulthood!
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