The dedications of these mothers, taking care of their handicapped children for life, is truly, amazing, and, they have worries of what’ll happen after they’re gone, guess that would be the common worries of parents with special needs children at home? From the Newspapers, translated…
Children with Downs’s Syndrome, the Developmentally Delayed “I’d Taught Him to Bathe Himself for Five Years, and Riding the MRT for Ten”, the Wishes of Mother’s Day, After We’re Elderly, Our Aging Children will be Well-Taken Care of
There’s, this group of mothers whose burdens will always be on their shoulders this Mother’s Day, as the rest celebrated the occasion. For families with developmentally delayed, Downs’s Syndrome children, the children became the worries of the parents’ for life, and, the mother’s of these families, they only have one wish for Mother’s Day, that after their children grow old, they will still be taken care of.
The forty-eight year-old Wen-Chang Feng clung on to his mother, became inseparable from his seventy-seven year-old mother. Wen-Chang Feng was the youngest, he had a high fever at the age of two, which impacted his development in his brain, he’d fallen ill a lot, half of the husband’s salaries goes into helping their son get better, and they’d worried that he might die, and after he was better, he’d clung on especially to his mother, “He’d needed my company when I sent him to school”, and now, at the age of close to fifty, Wen-Chang Feng still tagged along behind his mother.
A-Kin Zu’s husband had passed away, her daughter and son-in-law lifted her and her son home to take care of. She’d felt worried for the future, hoped to find a fitting institution to place her son, so his older sisters can visit him regularly.
The eighty-year-old Wu took along her younger daughter, “Xiao-Ming”, became all each other had. Wu said, that Xiao-Ming was diagnosed as developmentally delayed very late, but thankfully, their household economics allowed for it, they were able to hire a nanny to look after her, “I know I will be taking care of her the rest of her life”, she’d even saved up the elderly care money for her daughter’s sakes.
Even so, Wu couldn’t help but blame the heavens, “Why my child?”, until she’d gotten involved in the support group of developmentally delayed children, and found, that there are many families with her similar conditions, and she’d, felt okay then. “I just want to live longer, to accompany her.” Wu only hoped, that after she dies, Xiao-Ming’s other siblings can accept her, and that they will be able to grow old together.
The 26-year-old Lee was diagnosed with Downs’s Syndrome, and was mildly hearing impaired, his mother Fang-Jiang had quitted her job so she could look after him, she’d smiled and said, that she and her son are “Siamese twins”, inseparable, wherever he was, she’ll be there too.
“I’d taught him to bathe himself for five whole years, and took ten years to teach him how to ride the MRT alone”, the son not only had the physical health issues, Fang-Jiang took a long time, and a lot of heart, teaching her son to take care of himself. She’d once gotten stuck on “my child can’t learn”, but with the years, “Mom grows with the child”, she’d learned to slow her paces, and walked alongside her son, and had more and more tolerance.
The seventy-five year-old Wu lived with her forty-eight-year-old son, the originally healthy son, at the age of 12, changed, for thirty-six years, Wu looked after him 24/7, “Not a day goes by that I don’t worry”, she’d hoped, that her son will find a place to live in to grow old.
And so, this, is the trials of life that these mothers were put through, and, all they wanted, was for their adult children who are handicapped, mentally incapacitated, to be well taken care of after they are gone, and, all parents want nothing more, than to know, that their own young will be okay after they grow up…