How children learn…the importance, of SOCIALIZING children correctly, from the Front Page Sections, translated…
An elementary age girl in Taoyuan because of the weather getting hotter, she’d taken her top off in school, the teacher pressed her about what she’d done that, then learned, that she was left in her grandparents’ care, and modeled after her older brother, nobody told her that girls shouldn’t do that.
“This is just, a tip of the iceberg”, the experts pointed out, that the hidden worries of cross-generation upbringing, is that a lot of the grandparents, for the sakes of the livelihood, didn’t know how, and couldn’t make the time, to teach the children.
The Associate Professor from Donghai University, Huai-Jen Peng stated, the support of the cross-generation families received, are on the upbringing, but, on the education part, the grandparents who are acting as parents, have different ideals, and the elders wouldn’t know where or how, to ask for assistance, and, they’d become, totally, reliant, on the social workers, to help the children with what they didn’t get enough of from their schools.
The principal stated, that there were, only thirty-nine students in the entire school, and there are, SIX from cross-generation families, and SEVEN from single-parent households, and considering the students from the lower end of the socioeconomic statuses, and low income households, that proportion is more than half, although they were all receiving assistance, but he’d worried, that the caretakers’ beliefs were still, old school.
The father of this particular young girl is in prison, her mother left home, she was raised by her grandmother, with her two older brothers; once it was hot, the older brother took his shirt off to get cooled down in school, and the youngest girl followed this behavior, and the teacher immediately, helped her put her clothes back on.
Why did she model after her older brother, taking his clothes off in public? The child answered, whatever her older brother did, she’d, modeled, nobody taught her it was, unacceptable for her to do the same. The school contacted the grandmother, and she’d explained how she’d been, busy working daily, that she’d not, had the time needed, to socialize, and teach her grandkids what is and isn’t, acceptable.
There was a fourth grader in Miaoli, because his grandmother didn’t know how to teach him, it’d caused him to have developmental problems in the language area, and whenever he’d felt upset in school, he’d, bitten the person who’d, upset him, the school counseled him for two years, and, the child started to, slowly, understand, that using his words was the right way, to resolve the conflicts he was having with others, and, this child had never shown any sign of misbehaving until he graduated.
And so, this still showed, just how important SOCIALIZATION of children is, and yet, in these cross-generation families, the grandparents are usually, working hard as is, to put food on the tables, how can they have the time, to TEACH or to, SOCIALIZE their grandchildren, and, where the HECK are the parents of these, younger generations??? Run off, in prison, nowhere, to be S-E-E-N!!!
Life, the Obstacle Course 