See how traumatized children can be, from a very early age, as this college student figured out??? From the Newspapers, translated…
“I’d originally thought, that it was normal that parents argued incessantly at home.”, the fourth year journalism student from World News College, Lee went through her parents’ arguments starting at the age of six, and her parents were, separated, then divorced, they’d, remarried and started their new families, she’d recently wrote the book, “What My Parents’ Divorce Had Taught Me”, encouraging children from single-parent or broken families, to grow from the pains, so they can all, embrace a better, a brighter future.
The parents being loving toward one another, taking care of the children together, this beautiful scene, had become, too distant from Lee and her older sister’s minds. As she grew up in her home, her parents wouldn’t back down, it’d numbed her to the arguments of the adults in her world, until not long thereafter, after her mother remarried, and started a new family with her stepfather and his children, did she finally gain an understand of what a “happy family” looked like.
Lee had kept an open mind on her mother’s remarrying and her father’s dating again, “from when they wed, I’d started calling my stepfather ‘dad’”. She saw the smile that came back on her mother’s face with her stepfather, which made her unhesitant, in accepting this new life of hers, and understood, that love can exist, between people who aren’t related by blood at all.
Recalling back to when her parents fought hard, it’d made her ashamed in front of others. She’d grown up, caring a lot about other people’s beliefs about her, later on, she’d started, using a healthy mind, to accept the fact, that her family wasn’t, harmonious at all.
“One out of every four married couple is divorced, I hope, to let children know, that they’re, not alone, to let the parents know, what we are thinking about”, Lee knew personally, how much damage the parents’ divorce can cause the children. Recalling back when, had her parents understood how her and her older sister were feeling, then, perhaps, they would’ve been able to, consider more, to make a decision, that’s, less severe to handle for everybody. She’d believed, that telling the children what was happening in the family was, WAY more important, than fighting for the children’s custodies in court.
Because her parents were divorced, and remarried, Le hoped, that her own experiences will encourage her friends, other than writing her life experiences into a book, she’d also gone on the shows, to talk about the process of growing up for her, not only did she take the calls from the radio stations, she’d also planned, to work alongside the Children’s Welfare League, to hopefully, help build that bridge between parents and children in communicating with one another.
And so, this young woman can empathize with the situations of children from families with divorced parents, because she’d been through it, and, through watching her parents fight, to divorce, to finding other better fitting people for themselves, she’d learned, that sometimes, as the adults get divorced, it actually, benefitted everybody, because having children growing up in an environment where the parents fight constantly, or give one another silent treatments frequently, that, is NOT a healthy home background to raise a child in, or to grow up in…