Modeling behavior of children, why it’s too important, for the adults and parents, to SET a good example! Translated…
My daughters were playing with blocks, the six-year-old older girl suddenly hollered to her two-year-old baby sister, “The triangle goes here!”, the heightened pitch, plus the words she’d used, showed how annoyed she must be. After I’d reminded her, my eldest turned around, with a look on her face, said to my husband, quietly, “As you become too busy, you’d spoken in such a way with me too!”, and, my husband looked very sorry.
Children has great imitation skills, it’s surprising, and also, alarming too, the world that they see, is it, what we’d, wanted to, show them?
I’d once taught a young boy who was diagnosed with severe autism, as a physician, his own father had, noticed about his special needs a long time ago, as the child entered into the elementary years, the thick, carefully kept, record of the child getting into early intervention programs made by the father showed how brave this man had been, coping with this situation from birth, along with how much he cared, and looked after his own young. He’d always gotten actively involved in contacting the school teachers, to get his own son’s progresses, and helped out actively, as a volunteer parent, like a top, he’d, spun around like a top, between work and his own son’s school, accompanied his son as they’d greeted the teachers. The school had invited him, to share his experiences in raising up his own young in a seminar, he’d taken a deep breath, picked up the mic, and, with that smile he always had, but, it took him a very long time, for him to speak, “My child is the engine of a train!”, and afterwards, there were, tears, filling up his eyes.
illustration from the papers online…
The thought processes of a child with autism is like a copy machine, and, the world the child encounters will get recorded, as s/he encountered it, then, repeatedly, reproduced, becoming this, hard to change behavior pattern. The father recalled how he’d melted down, and blamed his own son, and in return, his son became, even more withdrawn and lived deeper, into his own world. And since, he’d demanded that he’d needed to, pay close heed to everything that he’d done big and small, to the miniscule of facial expressions, or tone of voice, and that even if he was already too fatigued, he shouldn’t get angry in front of his own son, become critical of him, to blame him, or to complain to him.
Although the physician knew all the mysteries of the human body, but, it’s a heavy burden, that he’d needed to, help his own son, master his own life.
The children repeated our words, our actions, copied our every move, learned to smile like we do, and reviewed over every single facial expression we’d ever made. As my children looked at me with that naïve, am I ready, to imprint myself into, their memories?
My son genuinely apologized to our eldest daughter, then, the two of them sat together on the couch, and sorted through the illustrated book, “Who’s the Bravest?”, I’d recalled the heroes in the novels of Ching-Wen Cheng, they’re not big characters in history, but, those, who are heroes in everyday living; breathing in the cracks of life, with no moment to spare, to gaze up at the stars, or seeing the green grass, or the flowers bloom, but they’re all, very introspective. I hope, that I will be a leader in my children’s lives, setting a good example for them to follow.
like this??? Photo from online…
And so, this is on how children modeled after their parents, no matter what, and even IF you don’t realize that your actions might affect your young, just watch them close next time, and you’ll be, surprised when you discover, hey, didn’t I do that a while back???