This is, what’s, trending now, how the healthy person in the family felt the need, to carry ALL the burdens of caretaking of her family members onto her, because she can’t feel at ease, with the offers of help from the outside world, from the Front Page Sections, translated…
She’d picked up recycled materials, supported her family of four, at ate 56, “No regret for never been married”, loving her families more than she does herself, she’d only asked, to “live longer than her older siblings”
The fifty-six year-old “Pearl” had a sort of flair about her, but her mother had been bedridden from illness for a long time, a couple of years, she’d passed, her father is elderly, her older brother and eldest sister had multiple disabilities, couldn’t take care of themselves, in order to keep her family going, she’d not gotten married to this day, she’d spun around like a top, around her loved ones daily.
Her Brother Has a Skin Disease, She’d Needed to Bathe Him Daily
Mentioning on the trials of “Pearl’s” life, the man in charge of the village felt heartache for her, her eldest sister is already, sixty-six, because she was developmentally delayed, didn’t have any skills to work, although she was once married, but after the September 21st earthquake from years ago, she was, kicked out back her in-laws.
Pearl’s older brother is severely disabled, and still needed her to bathe him to this day; the ninety-six year-old elderly father’s health is ailing too, the care of the family of four, landed on Pearl solely, she couldn’t go out to work at all, other than the handicap assistance from the government, the family relied on her selling the recycled materials to live off.
The Father is Elderly, the Older Sister Divorced, and Came to Live
Entering into Pearl’s home, the only water heater was, long broken, and in the colder days, they can only use the wood to heat up the water. As these past couple of days were, sunny, Pearl had taken out the quilt her father was using to get some sun, and, before she’d gone out to sell the recycled materials she’d collected, she’d cooked the rice, made the steamed eggs, then, reminded her eldest sister, to NOT forget to feed their father his lunch.
These past couple of years, there were the representatives, the charitable groups that wanted to help her out, she’d always, turned them all down, believed it to be her sole responsibilities, to look after the family members she’d loved dear, that the resources should be saved, for those who may need it more than she had. But as Pearl got older, it’d become, harder and harder, for her to look after her elderly father and her older siblings. In order to look after her families, she’d not married, nor does she have a life of her own, but she’d, never complained, and all she’d thought about, worried over were, her family.
Who’s Going to Take Over, She’d Felt Heartaches and Lost of the Future
Seeing how her father was growing older by the day, and her siblings who were, aging alongside her, the ones she couldn’t let go off were, her loved ones; she’d felt lost toward the future, only worried on what was going to happen, if she was, overcome with something, and died before her loved ones, or that one day, she won’t have the strengths, to look after them anymore.
For years, Pearl singlehandedly took care of her older siblings, and her older brother needed to wear the shorts, in order to go to the bathrooms by himself, would get anxious with strangers; her older sister liked to pace in the yard, and her father’s teeth are bad, and can only eat the semi-liquid foods. Pearl told, that all of these details, only she knew them well, and, she couldn’t be at ease, if someone else took over in caring for her families, and, the older siblings who’d grown solely reliant on her may also, have difficulties accepting another caretaker for them.
Pearl said, that someone had once consoled with her, to not live like this, to send her loved ones into a professional care facility, but where would she get the money from? She’d looked after her older siblings, and felt strained, fatigued, and if strangers were to, look after them, it would be even harder. And, the news of abuse in the nursing homes, it’d not allowed her to feel any easier, for the future, she’d only hoped, “I live longer than my older siblings!”
And so, this, is the tragic tale, of how the caretaking responsibilities of everybody in her family all, landed on her, and, she can’t even take care of herself, she’s already, too stressed over looking after her father in his nineties, and needed to look after her older siblings too, and, she’s in her midlife years, and, nobody will take care of her, she’d not gotten married, had children, because of how her family members needed her so, and this is a woman’s ultimate sacrifice!
Life, the Obstacle Course 