These are, the conclusions that the family court judges drawn, from years of experiences, ruling over the cases in divorce, from the Front Page Sections, translated…
The judges of family courts needed to sort through hundred of cases of divorce daily, and they’d gained an in-depth understanding of what made the marriages break up too. A judge pointed out, “without the love, everything IS problematic”, the smallest details of life can become the spark for divorce, a judge who’d ruled many divorce cases over the years pointed out, “the three killers of marriages are: the mothers-in-law, the children, and the extramarital affairs”.
A family court judge stated, that the cases of broken marriages normally happen in the families, with privacy, and it’s too difficult, to find the solid evidences, and the judge also needed to get involved with both parties’ negative emotions toward one another, and that would be why almost no judge wanted to rule on these matters.
He said, that the most important thing that a family court judge would need is patience, the people on the verge of divorcing are usually filled with displease when they appeared in court, there would be crying, cussing, and slamming of the doors, and there was one person that threw the law volumes onto the floors in court too. And the judges were often, scapegoated in these cases, and the parties usually felt that the judges favored the other person, and after the judge ruled, the party would fight for another ruling immediately, and, the most complaints made by the public in the court systems is in the family courts, “no matter how hard we’d worked, it’s just, not quite enough.”
A judge with seven years of experiences in family court pointed out, “the three killers of a marriage is the mother-in-law, the children, and extramarital affairs”. After the marriage, the problems between the mother and daughter-in-law started surfacing, after the kids were born, the lifestyle is altered, and the aloofness that the party who’d had an affair exerted, are leading reasons for why a couple argues incessantly, and leading to the divorces.
He said, there was a husband who’d waited for his wife in the cold winds, and not felt it was trying, and yet, there was a husband who’d filed for divorce because his wife couldn’t clean the pots and pans completely, it’d made him realize, that “without love, everything became, problematic.”
When asked about how to keep a marriage, a judge with eighteen years of experiences in family court said, that the law often saw the married couple as a combined entity, like how the assets given to one another in a marriage wasn’t taxable, or how the spouses would have the rights to the inheritances first, and, if two people with different personalities are to marriage, the key to keeping the marriage going is in communication, tolerance, “delete half of oneself, so you can have room, for your other half”.
Yeah uh, this is from the judges’ experience of ruling over ALL the cases of divorce, and, that still just showed, how love is easy, and marriage, hard, because marriage doesn’t just involve the two of you, individuals, it’s a “union” of two very different families, and because we weren’t raised the exact same ways, we have different ways of experience things in our lives, that, is where the friction started happening, and if the two people aren’t on the same page, then, their marriage will, crack!
Life, the Obstacle Course 