All chipping in, to make the caretaking of his elderly years easier, translated…
My father-in-law has three sons, in his elderly years, he’d, moved in with us, because we’re both working, he’d taken care of the house during the daytime when we’re away, and when we’re on business trips, we felt at ease, having him watch over the kids too. But, this did not last, as he’d become, immobilized, and needed one of us close by at all times, it’d become, a bit more burdensome to have him live with us.
Once, he was hospitalized for an immunology problem, and I’d taken my students assignments to grade when I looked after him, or read through the documents for school, working both jobs at the same time, it’d, set my father-in-law’s mind at ease. When he complained of backpains, I’d get him out of bed and have him exercise a bit, feeding him his meals, the family members of his roommate would ask, “Is she your daughter?”, when my father-in-law told them I was his daughter-in-law, the woman’s eyes lit up, she couldn’t believe it.
like this, perhaps??? Photo from online…
But, my father-in-law’s health kept deteriorating, because of the illness and the years, too quickly, to the point he could, no longer look after himself anymore, and we can only file for hiring a nurse’s aide. But the worker was quite young, and still had a ton of life she wanted to experience, whenever she’d found the time, she’d kept her head lowered to her cell phone playing the games, or chatting with her friend using the apps, it’d made my father-in-law ill at ease, but, there’s nothing we could do, as we both needed to work.
I’d thought, rather than scolding her, I should, educate her, teach her to do the household chores, to read and write, to deal with emergency situations that came up from a day to day basis. I’d taught her the process of looking after my father-in-law, made sure she could, handle things on her own, then, I’d felt, a bit more, at ease. Ever since, she’d become, my “replacement”, worked around the clock.
You shouldn’t treat the migrant workers like you’re, above them, you should give them a broader goal, hoped, that as they’d, returned back to their home country, they are able to, find better jobs for themselves. And so, whenever she’d found the time, she’d learned the Chinese characters from my father-in-law, they’d interacted regularly and well now, my father-in-law’s loneliness, gone, and she’d learned to administer the medications to the elder without any mistakes, and used more of her heart in taking care of him.
And so, this family is very kind to the foreign caretaker, because she is willing to learn from the woman who was originally, the primary caretaker of her father-in-law, but, not all employers, or employees are like that here, there are still, a TON of cases where the hired caretakers would, abuse the elderly that they looked after.
Life, the Obstacle Course 