This may be the truth, but, it can turn into RATIONALIZATION, and EXCUSE very quickly…
It’s not your fault, it’s how you were raised. You weren’t to blame for carrying the wayward values you’d carried and practiced throughout your lives.
It’s not your fault, it’s how you were raised, sure, that may be true, but you’re an ADULT now, and you should be able to, BREAK out of the pattern of being mistreated, and just because someone had, inflicted pain on you when you were a young child, that still doesn’t give you the right, to FUCKING take it out on someone else!
It’s not your fault, it’s how you were raised, that may have been a valid excuse for your behaviors when you were younger (like in your teens???), but now, you’re, already, PAST midlife, and you’re still, behaving EXTREMELY immaturely, what’s THAT about, huh?
It’s not your fault, sure, it’s how you were raised, and, you should blame your parents for being abusive/neglectful, but, you’d needed to rely on them to SURVIVE when you were younger, and so, identifying with the parents who abused and neglected, who had, NEVER loved you, became the only way you knew how, to interact with others.
And, you will, pass this vicious cycle of behaviors down to your own offspring, and, because they’re, JUST as stupid (M***ER F***ING retarded is more like it!) as you are, you can already guess, where this is headed next………