Marriages that started as such usually don’t end well! A Q&A, translated…
Q: Not Thought Clearly, Entered into Marriage, and He’s Not a Good Man…
Ms. A originally worked in the super convenience shop owned by her family, because of the location, the business was well, she’d grown up in a pretty well-to-do family. Later on, she’d met a friend of her middle school classmate, and the guy would often come by the store her family owned to strike up conversation with her, A actually didn’t fall in love with him, it’s just, that she’d seen him often, and felt that he liked her, and life was getting boring, so she’d started hanging out with him. The two of them had sexual intercourse, and, neither one of them used protection, two months after they’d started dating, she’d found she was pregnant!
Back then, A didn’t have the intentions of marrying him, the two of them fought often, the causes, were mostly of the miniscule of matters, before she felt the joys of love, they’d started arguing endlessly over the smaller matters in life, and naturally, she’d not wanted to marry him. But he’d, hung on tightly to her, and, because A felt sorry for him, she’d, said yes to his marriage proposal.
After they were wed, the relations didn’t improve at all. A had to consult him on everything, to what kinds of coffee she drinks, to which hairstyle she should have, and, the dowries of jewelries her husband’s family gave to her needed to get returned back to his family; before the marriage, she’d considered the issue of transportation, A made an agreement that they should live with her parents, which her husband agreed to, but had gone back on his words on. If she’d asked her husband to pay something for the kids’ behave, he’d cussed at her incessantly. Later her husband found that A made some money from the stock markets, and, demanded her bring the money to him too, it’d caused her to cry every single day. She’d taken her kids home to her parents’ after a fight, and found, that she seemed to be, pregnant again! She refused to return back to her mother-in-law’s house, and her husband asked the relatives to persuade her, but she just wanted to divorce him, what is she to do?
A My Advice:
Love and the starting stage of a marriage should be happy. And yet, A’s husband would control what she drinks, what sort of a hairstyle she gets, he is a control freak. No matter if A followed his words or defied him, she’d always ended up crying. I don’t know if he will become physically abusive toward her. His job is taking over his parents’ food stand, with an unstable source of income, and, he’d only used the internet to carry on in conversations with A when they were dating, but had spent over $6,000N.T.s on the phones with his own friends, this clearly showed, that he wasn’t, willing to, spend any money on her. A is too soft too, every time her husband softened down, she’d, crawled back home again, I hope that A can get sterilized first, as if the couple doesn’t get along well, it would, harm the kids too; wait a little while, until an elder whose voice mattered can mediate for you, and see if your husband had made the changes in himself, then, decide whether or not you should divorce him.
Uh, how much more of this ABUSE are you asking this woman to take? She’d already felt trapped in this marriage, from the beginning, and, if she waits any longer, who knows, she may pop out, YET another one of them little Johns or little Janes, and so, this, is NOT sound advice, what this woman should do, is to acquire a life skill, something she can live off of, and, file for divorce!
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