These are usually, the WORST years of our lives, and the parents, they seemed to have, forgotten how it was when they were our age, and, so, head-butting happens, a Q&A, translated…
Q: For the Sake of Playing Online Games, He’d, Shoved His Own Mother
A lot of the parents, as they talked about their teenage children, they’d had the look of shock on them. Those who’d been through this, recalling, they’d all hoped, they weren’t, present whilst their children were teens, that they’d not had to, cope with it all; and, those with younger children, still had worries coming their ways.
The reason why teens are so troubling to deal with, because of the developments in this time period that’s, affecting their bodies and minds. Other than parents, they’d longed more, for the acceptances of their peers, they’d wanted to know about what’s in from their age-group, they’d challenged their parents’ ways, wanted to have their own ways on things; this isn’t going bad, it’s just, changing. Wait until puberty is over, they’d returned, back to “normal” again. I encourage that parents should read books on teens, to treat them as not-yet-matured adults, and just deal with them with that sense of ordinariness of life, and, everything shall pass easily.
S, who’s in the ninth grade is a GT student, but he’d often missed classes, and enjoyed talking back to his instructors a lot, the parents had gone to the schools to apologize on his behalf a lot. Because he was too into the online games, and so, the parents gave his computer to a relative, leaving only a computer that’s enough for the use of processing documents for him to use. One weekend, S was in a bad mood, and, he’d, shoved his mother hard who’s in front of the computer, and sat down, to use it, S’s mother was shocked and angered by this, she’d gone downstairs to call for help from her husband; as S saw his parents come upstairs, knowing he’d done something wrong, but worried his father may get violent, he’d picked up the ashtray and smashed it, and the broken pieces cut through his left hand and blood came flowing.
His parents who were shocked by this wanted to take him to the hospital, but S refused to be touched by either one of them, and so, they can only get S’s older brother to head upstairs, to help him stop the bleeding, and this passed, as the parents just, shrugged it off. But, S’s parents were worried, that they don’t know how should cope with this sort of things continuously.
A My Advice
There were some children who were, furious during their teenage years, if parents can’t understand this raging anger that’s boiling inside of them, and, the conflicts will blow out of control. If you want to reason with your children, you MUST wait until he is willing to listen to you first.
So, this, is what the raging teens looked like, and, the teenage years are especially hard (and I know this how??? Oh yeah, been there, and done THAT too!!!), because biologically, we have our HORMONES, and, psychologically, our brains going through some changes as well, and that, compounded with the EXTERNAL environments (school, peer pressures, parents, homework, extracurricular activities, dating, etc., etc., etc.), everything just BLOWS, and at this period of time, it’s best, that parents should just, let their children simmer down, heaven only KNOWS, how many times I’d wanted to, be left alone during those times, and yet, the woman who’d “made” me just kept prodding and prodding, and prodding, and so, yeah, I BLEW UP too!
Dealing with a teenager, that, would be a lesson, that almost NONE of you parents had, “mastered” yet, because, maybe, it wasn’t, as turbulent with your own teenage years, or maybe, you’d, forgotten how you WERE as teens, who knows???