Tell me I’m your favorite, even if you love us all equally, mom! Translated…
My three-year-old son fell seriously ill, and the children when sick, became especially fragile.
In the early morning, he’d burst out crying, and I can’t quiet him at all, I’d thought his condition was worsened, and so, I’d, flustered and asked him what was wrong, and, I was able to, put the bits and pieces together in his childish words, “Mommy doesn’t love me anymore!”, he’d cried, of heartbreak. And, I didn’t really know whether to cry or to laugh, and yet, I’d seriously, thought hard about his words, to try to find some comforting words to say to this small patient of mine. I’d tried a ton of way, and yet, I still couldn’t, quite soothe the little guy, and, as I was reaching my wit’s end, I’d stated to him, “You are, my most favorite”.
considering how he’d younger than his older brother, the child on the right got a smaller piece and thought his mother was being unfair…not my photo…
At the moment I’d blurted it out, I’d felt, a bit, conflicted, instinctively thought I was being unfair to my eldest daughter. But by the very next second, I’d, understood it, every child wanted to be her/his mom’s favorite child; and every single child, IS her/his mom’s favorite.
I’d once believed, that being a fair mother, I’d needed to, give the equaled amount of love to the children, but, I’d neglected that the equal amount of love, is the same as being stingy with my love too. The mother’s love shouldn’t be split up, every child in her/his mom’s mind has a special place, and, it’d made me say, without any difficulties to my children, “You are all my favorite”.
And, the next day, after my eldest daughter heard my conclusions, she’d stated a question, “Then, how about dad?”, my, my, a six-year-old’s mind naturally is, more complex than a three-year-old’s that’s for sure.
loving both their young, not my photograph…
So, how can we be fair with the love we have for each and every one of our young? By giving them the EXACT same things? Of course not, you need to see what your children need from you, whether if it’s attention, more time alone with you, and you can never, EVER buy the things your kids asked you for to show them that you love them either!
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