What we can learn, from the conversations with our elderly parents, from the Front Page Sections, translated…
A friend of my is very able-bodied, she’d often pickled the vegetables and left them for me by my front porch, giving me surprises. But yesterday she’d called me, told me that she couldn’t get out of her house, that it would be best if I could come by and pick the items up myself. I thought she was ill, but, her neighbors, for some miniscule matters, had started suing each other, and when she bumped into them in the elevators, she was forced, to hear her neighbor’s complaints about her other neighbors, and, she felt trapped, that she couldn’t, get away, and so, she’d, stopped going out of her house.
She said, that cell phones now have the video recording capabilities, and it’s easy, to get sued. There was a friend of hers, when trying to break up a fight between two people said, “Don’t stoop to his level”, then, she’d gotten sued along with the individual who’d insulted the man too.
On the matter of suing someone in court, it’s something we should all, try to avoid, but my father had taught me a great way, to avoid all of the messes.
When I was growing up, my father banned us from cussing. As I got into arguments with my classmates, I couldn’t, cuss them back as they’d, cussed me out, and I’d gone home, complained to my father about it, he’d asked me, “If someone had given you something you don’t want, what would you do?”, I’d said, “I’d, returned the item back”, he’d said, “That’ right, the next time someone cussed you out, tell him, ‘I’m not taking the bad names you called me, please take it back, all of it.’ As I’d done as my father taught me to, the guy who’d cussed me out became stumped, he couldn’t say, I want all the cuss words I’d cussed you out on myself! And so, he’d left me alone, and never bugged me again.
People take two years’ time to learn to speak, but, their entire lifetime, to learn NOT to speak. My father said, bad things come out of the lips, do keep those lips of yours guarded, you’ll reduce your troubles by half. And, if the dogs barked at you, and you barked back, the bystanders wouldn’t know which one barking IS the dog. I’d stated, that reputation is the second life of humans, if you don’t defend your own reputations, as your reputation became defamed, you won’t get your cleared name back again. My father told me, that, is the reason why we should learn to put up with things, as the time passes, your friends will show themselves to you, as well as your enemies too, and, your friends would know who you are, and those who aren’t your friends, why would you care how they see you in the first place?
When I was younger, I couldn’t take this way of thought, I just, didn’t dare talk back to my father. And now, I’d read through a lot in life, felt, that my father was a gem, he’d, stopped me from getting angered by a lot of unnecessary things.
We can only be our selves, otherwise, we won’t be able to make real friends, because nobody wants to interact, and be friends with someone who’s a fake. The most important relationship you will ever have is with yourself, you must, see yourselves in high regards, so others will too.
The secret of happiness is in not allowing the miniscule matters bug you. Paul Newman and Joanne Woodward had been married for over fifty years, they are, the miracles of the movie industries. Newman once told the press, if I have steak at home, why would I want to go out for burgers? Joanne wouldn’t bug me with the nitty-gritty things, she’d never asked me how much she should pay the sitter as I came home from work.
To tell the truth, a lot of the fights, afterwards, people usually can’t remember why they were so angry in the first place, and, a lot of people had, missed out on their own bliss, because they’d never, stopped and cherished it.
The wisdoms and experiences of the elderly can help a lot of the younger generations from experiencing defeat and worries, so they will have more mind on developing their careers. After people retire now, they still have about thirty years left to live, treating the elderly population as assets, instead of expenditures, is what we need to work on in the beliefs now.
So, from this interaction between the writer and her own father, she’d gained some wisdoms from the elderly’s experiences in life, and that’s just how wisdom is passed down from one generation to the next, the elderly has a lot to teach us, and we can learn from their life’s experiences, to reflect, and not making the mistakes they’d already made, saving ourselves the heartaches, the troubles too, but, the younger generations are way too busy, making the money, running the rat race, they’d not paid enough attention to their parents and elders, and thus, they’d, missed out, on ALL the important information that their elders have to offer to them.
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