The Princesses Who NEVER Sleep at Night

An alternative on the stories of princesses and princes here, translated…

Almost all girls listened to the stories of the fairytale princesses while growing up, and there would be a Prince Charming who loved the princesses dearly, and no matter what kinds of perils that princesses get in, no matter what’s happening in the environment, he’d be willing to, rescue her, and marry her, and host that looked-upon wedding that the kingdom’s people expected, getting the people hooraying for them.

But, the stories ended right here, and the little girls didn’t know, that after the prince and the princess married, the prince was always handling the matters of the kingdoms, doesn’t come home until it’s very late, he was nowhere to be seen by the princess at all times.  Then, for the princess who got married, she’d needed to cope with her mother-in-law, the Queen’s teaching her to be, correcting her behaviors, so it’s fitting for someone with a noble status.  Naturally, the little girls didn’t hear, that after the Prince started ruling the country, he’d had a bad day at work, and as he was stressed out, he wouldn’t hug the princess after he arrived home.  The thing that the prince did was, falling asleep so soundly, or play the online games alone, locked himself up in the study.

how we’re, socilized, with men leading, and we women just, let them take the lead…picture from online…

So many things taken for granted, the little girl naturally, didn’t know, that after they’d had children, the princess became a mother, and in order to take care of her young, and be a good mom, it became even harder, for her, to meet up with the prince who’s now, turning in late every single night, and the prince, because of the emptiness he’d felt inside, stopped feeling the love of how the princess needed him like from the start, instead, she’d become, a reformer (a trainer) of the family, always dictating how he should act or be, or that he became the bad role model for their children.  And so, the prince needed other women whom he can pour his heart out to outside of the castle, to rid himself of the displeasures he felt from the princess’s talking down at him.

And of course, the little girl also didn’t know, how difficult their marriage became, how someone involved in this marriage started thinking, “Did I make the wrong choice, getting married at the beginning of all of this?”  And one of them may be thinking, “Is it best, if I, make my exit right now?”

Do we seek out our own dreams, or do we give up ourselves for the sake of our spouses, and for family?  Which option?  A or B?  Which one will render me no regrets at all?

Everybody can get, that fairytales are so far away from real life, but we’d all ignored, that when we were younger, these fairytales had already, started impacting our cognitions of how this world should be, we’re all, deeply, influenced by them.  And so, the girls became the princesses, waiting for rescue by the princes, and the boys became the heroes that the princesses needed, someone who should, shoulder the whole world for her sake.

This became, the beginning of the tragic fates of men and women.  The women used everything they have, to structure this world that a princess lives in from the schemas of their childhood years, everything must be perfect, everything done by the scripts, making other people envious of us, so people can exclaim, “that is what a happy family looked like!”  So, the children and the husband needed to work harder, to maintain this façade for the princesses, and there can’t be anybody who destroyed this, or someone who was out of place, that did something to break this perfection apart.  Everything needs, to be, this perfect.

And yet, for men, no matter how many trials they’d faced, no matter how much pressures they were under, they’d needed to play the role of the strong provider, other than having the abilities to slay the dragons, they’d needed to uphold that promises at the time of the princesses’ rescues, even as they’d died, they will, hold down the fortresses, otherwise, they’d earned the name of a coward or a useless being.  And so, every single problem, this man carried on his own, with no one to share it with, and even AS the man could no longer handle the stresses, because, the prince can’t lose his dignity and face.

And naturally, the crueler side of modern day marriages, are better understood by the girls, but it still doesn’t mean, that the princess inside women who are waiting for rescue had, all died.  They’re still all there, it’s just that the women feared that the men aren’t dependable enough, that they can’t be trusted, so they’d, locked themselves up in the high towers, never leaving that prison, never inviting anybody in, unless, the perfect, dependable man comes along, otherwise, they’d, rather guard that lone tower, although it would be lonely, but, at least, they don’t risk getting injured.

Of course, there are the princesses who’d set up the traps, and waited for the one-in-a-million prince to step right in, into her ivory tower then, lock up the front gates, set up the booby traps, to keep the outside world out of both their lives.  So long as they don’t encounter anything on the outside world, there’s no change, and without any form of change, there would be, zero worries, there’s no need to worry, that these modern day princes lacked stabilities or are undependable.  Of course, she couldn’t see, nor would she know, that the prince had been, working on that underground secret passage, that one day, as the tunnel formed completely, he’ll be, out for good.

and this, is a “school building” for all princesses-in-training, photo from online

No matter how the princess choose to preserve the love, to make sure that their world of two is perfect, she is destined to have her heart broken.

Unless, she is willing, to let the princess inside die.

As a girl becomes a woman, if the princess inside is still living, then, this bad fairytale will keep on rolling, and the world of two is still written, directed, performed by the individual.  And, no matter what the other person feels, thinks, about the relationship, would be considered, unimportant, excessive, and unnecessary.

A lot of women, myself included, after being dumped or breaking up, finally realized, how little I’d known about this man I’d dated.  That what he did, was way underestimated by me.

Women, always believed that their marriage was within their controls, but they’d not realized, that nobody wanted to be controlled, you are only, in control, of a tiny role, nothing more.

My lost loves made me realized, that the princess must die, if she doesn’t, then, I can’t make changes in myself.  If she doesn’t die, as those princes left, she can only become sleepless in the nights, and hoped, that there would one day, be a REAL prince, to save her; or, the princess would lock herself up inside a high tower, keeping this world out, and not take the responsibilities for one’s own life, refusing, to become the truest version of oneself.

Nobody IS a princess, just like there is NO prince either, your nobility, or dignity, isn’t built on that mask of the princess and prince, your elegance and dignity, is because you are, you, just like how he is him too, nobody should lower oneself, nobody should be less, to serve the other, to become an attached to the other person for life.

And as that princess inside of you changed and became mature, she’d no longer needed a prince to rescue her, and believed in her own capabilities, and believed, that she can, live her life well, she shall be, the owner of her own world.  And those who’d entered into her life, are not there to rescue her, to comply iwht her, but for the sake of sharing a life together, helping each other out, through thick and thin, in sickness and in health.

You don’t need to be a princess nor a prince, just you, fight for you, truly, mature into being, your maturity, and beauty, will both be, radiating.

So, here’s, the FACTS of life, ladies and gentleman, but because we’d been socialized, with those god DAMN sexist fairytales, of how girls are locked up inside those ivory towers, with the fire-breathing dragons to keep their rescuers out (who says, that those dragons can’t be our pets???), and because of this way of socializing boys and girls, as we mature into men and women in form (not yet grown mentally!!!), we’d carried that false belief of how ooh, someone will rescue me (get REAL here!!!), or I must slay me some dragons, to “score” (don’t even!!!), that, is why, a lot of people, before they figured themselves out, are still, looking with the BLINDERS on, hoping that they meet the right man/woman to date, or to marry!