Leave More for Oneself, After Growing Older

On assigning the assets to your young and your spouses after death, how no matter how fair you thought you’d been, in splitting up your assets, your children will never feel the way you do, they’d always believed, that you loved the other children more, which becomes a huge source of family discord after you’re gone, translated…

My friend, Wang asked for a traveling companion in our group, everybody was too surprised, that she who’d saved every last dollar is spending the money to go on trips abroad.  That was when Wang mentioned how her husband left some money for her when he died, she’d originally wanted to follow the traditions, and leave the money to her four children, but the children were unhappy about how the assets were being split up; other than the share her husband left for her, he’d naturally, left more money, to the child he’d favored the most, and, although her other children didn’t show how displeased they all were, but, the seed of discord was, already, sown, and, when the family gathered, they’d treated each other coldly, and used awful words to talk to one another, making Wang uncomfortable at these family functions.

a document like this, perhaps, will save the living a whole lot of argument, or maybe it won’t???  Found online…

How the assets should be split up, her husband had decided on when he was still living, and, Wang couldn’t say anything about it, but, seeing how her kids became more and more estranged from each other by the days, she’d felt awful, but understood, that to the kids, the money didn’t matter, it’s how they’re held in places in their father’s mind that mattered more.  It’d also reminded Wang of how her parents asked her to give up going to school, so her younger brothers can afford to be sent to the academies, she’d cried to sleep on the night of, and her younger brother said she’d made so much noise that they couldn’t sleep.  After years, her parents fell ill, she was pregnant with her second child, and stayed beside them, but naturally, her parents left the inheritances to her brothers who were living abroad.  Wang didn’t object to this that much, because that was how things were in those days, but, she couldn’t help but felt a bit awful, that her parents didn’t think she’d mattered at all.

“And so, I don’t want to leave any money for my children.”  Seeing how her own young was about to march on the path she once traveled down, feeling upset about how much they’d weighed in the parents’ minds, to the point of getting on bad terms with each other now, Wang had decided to reassign the assets, and put the share her husband left for her into traveling, and for lessons in floral arrangements, the dreams she wanted to pursue when she was younger, another portion, will be saved for the medical costs for her future, and she’d put her house up, in exchange for forms of a pension program provided by the government.  “Anyways, I’m, leaving more, for me now”, she’d told us.

So, this, is on the matter of splitting up the assets, and, it is difficult, especially, when you have more than one child, because, no matter how you’d split up your assets, your kids will always feel that you’re unfair, and that, was what this woman experienced, and, she’d come up with a way, of using the money left for her by her husband well.