What Can the Parents Do, as They Started Discovering that Their Children Became Interested in Sex?

They’re, at that age now, and, what can you, the parents do???  A Q&A, translated…

Q: As Her Daughter Started Engaging in Physical Intimacies with a Male Classmate…

Mrs. C, from a certain HUGE city, D in the Midwest wrote me to discuss what happened to her daughter a short while ago.  C’s daughter is eleven, a short while ago, there was a summer camp sponsored by the schools, the boys and girls had separate campgrounds.  The itinerary for the third day of the activities was going to a wetland to make observations, that morning, one person out of each of the girl’s and the boy’s campgrounds said they weren’t feeling well, and stayed at the campsite to rest up.  The girl who wasn’t well was C’s daughter, and the boy was the son of her neighbor, the two of them played together from time to time, and, on the day that both weren’t feeling well, to skip the activities, that seemed to have been planned by the children themselves.

class is starting here, NOT my photo…

While everybody else was out exploring with the group, they’d explored each other’s bodies at the girls’ campgrounds, not long thereafter, they were found, by the teacher who’d stayed behind, to keep the grounds, and, both were counseled by the schools, and their parents, notified.

C didn’t become hysterical or act rash, after she’d asked her daughter about what had happened, she’d told her daughter some constructive advice, I believe, that other parents can take from C’s examples, in handling the situations when teens start getting interested in sex.

A My Advice:

C had let her daughter know a little more than just the basics of sex, and reiterated and explained the MOST important parts: other than protecting oneself from contracting an STD, and, before the two children are ready to be together, don’t get pregnant; because the stresses, the consequences of pregnancies, almost ninety-five percent are shouldered by the females.  No matter how much you feel you loved this boy, and no matter how much passions are flowing from each other, you’d still need to demand that he wears a condom, or you can tell him no (because he should be looking to protect you, instead of just allowing himself to do as he wished).

and this, would be your parents’ way of learning it, doesn’t work, now, awareness is more important than prevention!  Not my comic…

C knew, that there was NO way she could set the age of her daughter having sex with a boy, but “he must be someone worthy of your love”, otherwise, you will, blame yourself in the future too.  I agreed with how C handled the matter so calmly, and believed, that she’d used a constructive method, that she’d not turned the children into the laughing stock, that, was why I’d decided, to share her experience with the readers.

So, because preventing your young, prohibiting them, from explorations of their bodies is NEXT to impossible, and those teenage raging hormones ARE, out of control, this mom chose to educate her daughter, about the consequences of the possibilities of her child’s having sex with a boy she liked, and that, is amazing, because parents normally have troubles remaining calm, let alone, so RATIONAL, about their children getting CAUGHT, having SEX together!  So this, is a mom who works, to educate her daughter, to make her more aware, of the consequences of her adult behaviors, as she’s not yet an adult…