Difficulties in our lives, in need of expert advice, a Q&A, translated…
Q: Her Home Situation is Torturing, How Can She Move on from it?
After her younger brother died, the family became, broken, Ms. U, who couldn’t help soothe her mother’s broken heart wrote, that she had been close to her younger brother since they were growing up, her father had a second stroke, and is now demented, had been lying on the bed of the nursing home for five whole years already. With a seriously ill at home, life is hard enough, but, it gets worse.
Several months ago, her younger brother was experiencing back pains every single day, U naturally thought, it was him working too hard, and told him to get acupuncture or massage therapy. Over a month, it’d not changed, she’d nagged him to get examined by the hospital, then, bad news, it was, lymphoma in the fourth stage! He was supposed to start treatment immediately, but, he was, too weakened already, the doctors needed to wait until he’d regained some physical strengths, to start the treatment processes.
U’s younger brother’s conditions worsened, in no more than a month’s time, he’d passed on. The family was in denial about the whole thing, and, U’s mother either became psychotic or what, she’d broken down completely, doesn’t eat or sleep or drink any liquid, started blaming everybody, kept hollering how God should take her son’s place in dying, that even if it meant sending her to hell, so long as she gets her son back again.
U’s younger brother surely, was a good son, so young, how could he have, gotten cancer? Nobody that the family knew knows how to counsel U’s mother, U needed to watch out for her father who’s half alive, her mother who wants to die, her younger brother who just died, she had difficulties, keeping herself breathing too.
A My Advice
Sometimes, there are no reasons for why things happen, and at this time, we shouldn’t, weigh it on the fair or unfair scales, and you may need to get the doctors to prescribe medication, so your mother can get her rest, U can’t break now. And, if there are friends and families that U’s mother was close to, get them to help out a bit. Life is like this, those you loved, die, and, sometimes, it’s, the members of the younger generation who go first. Other than getting treatment for when you fall ill, who else can know the future? Perhaps, by mourning for the losses as you need, that will, give you the strengths, to carry on in life.
So, it is, awful, how this woman’s family had, been impacted by all of this, in such a short matter of time, and, that’s just fate, and now, the primary caretaker of her father and mother, U, need to make herself well first, before she can have the energies to care for either her father or her mother, because, if this woman falls down, then, the family will be in deeper trouble than ever before.