She Was Raped by Her Own Father, and Called a Whore by Her Own Mother

This would be, the tale of a SURVIVOR, NOT a “victims”!!!  From www.msn.com.tw, translated, by me…

What sort of a father would, turn on his own third-grade daughter?  And what sort of a mother, when the father was, raping her, didn’t put an end to it, but instead, becoming an accomplice to her husband, forcing the young daughter to bathe, to sleep with, calling her own child “a whore”, “a slut”, “a bitch”?  Awhile ago, a female member of the online community wrote this on a discussion board, stated, that she believed, that both and her younger sister, were, dolls, “broken by her father”.

The Devilish Father Who’d Raped His Two Young Daughters

The woman who retold the story (think it was on behalf of a friend of hers), said that the woman was hearing impaired since when she was a young child, didn’t know what other people’s families were like, took in the information slower, only knew, that her parents were her heaven and earth as a child.

And still, her childhood wasn’t even CLOSE to being anything ordinary, her father would force her and her younger sister to bathe with him, to sleep with him, “That man once tried to kick open the bathroom doors, telling us he needed to bathe with us, very brute, and with that serious tone of voice, saying, that it’s, only normal, for us, to bathe together!”  The father would take the children’s hands, and had them touch his genitals, saying dirty things to them; and would stroke his daughters’ bodies while they were in bed, sleeping.  She’d felt uncomfortable, that she couldn’t, fight him off, because she thought, that her mother had “allowed it, that the rest of the world is like this”.  And so, her father’s sexual molestations of her, had lasted, into her high school years, for over TEN years, and, it’d, stopped, until she’d entered into the high school that this article was posted on the website of. 

And, as her mother saw her young daughters get sexually molested by her husband, she’d not even, lent them a helping hand, instead, she’d taken her own anger out on her and her younger sister, cussing at them, “Bitches, whores, why don’t you just go out, and let someone else FUCK you?”, and, she’d, beaten them down with a pipe when they’d started, locking up the bathroom doors when they were in the shower too!  The mother grilled them, “Why won’t you let dad come in and bathe with you two?”, the young woman posted, “maybe, that, is how parents relate to their young normally?”

The Father Who is Seemingly Reputable, Was Actually, a Wolf in Sheep’s Skin

The woman who posted this originally said, that in the eyes of friends, families and relatives, her father is a do-gooder, very social, not only was he connected to their school teachers well, he also put a lot into his children’s education.  After she got older, and learned out odd all of this had been, she’d decided, to press charges against her own father.  And, everyone who knew the family, friends, relative, none of them believed, that her father was capable of such atrocities, they’d even, empathized with him.  She wrote a passage, describing the loneliness, the helplessness she’d felt, “Nobody believed me, called me delusional, everybody who knew them, all believed, how can normal people like these have two psychotic daughters”.

The Memories of Her Childhood Caused Her Insurmountable Pains

These awful memories tagged along the original writer of the article, affected everything in her life.  She was, envious, of how regular girls can fall in love freely, and yet, as her boyfriend was making love to her, she’d recalled the past of her rape by her own father.  This made her feel that disgust toward herself, that she was, filthy, awful, and disgusting; she’d hated her own body, hated how she resembled her own father, hated how she can no longer tell between what’s real and what’s not, watch her self being displaced from her own body, sexually abused by her own father, and she can only, lie there still, like a broken doll.

This sort of pains, caused her to become, totally, fatigued, she had, mutilated herself too, but the hardest part of adapting to this was, how she couldn’t interact with other people normally, being in other people’s company caused her to feel disgust, even a friendly touch from a female friend made her sick, and all she could do was, work hard, to adjust, but, she’d caught, deeper, and deeper, into that blackhole of her own emotions.

Anyone, Can Become, the Accomplice in the Cycle of Abuse

The original writer of the post mentioned, how during this time period, whether it be her ex, or any other elders she’d known all believed, that “parents have nothing but the best interests of their children in mind”, that “home is a shelter”, none of them supported her want of pursuit of suing her father in court, and weren’t agreeing with how she’d, disowned her family, she had, struggled hard, between being a fitting daughter and what is right for her, getting justice, and, in the support of some of her closest friends, she’d finally decided, to press charges against her own father.  She believed, that it was, this group of friends that had, pointed out to her, how she is, loved.

At the end of the article, the original writer wished herself a “happy birthday”, she also wrote, “Don’t know how much longer I’ll last, but, I’d, made it through, one more year, I’d worked, very hard, writing all of this out, and for now, I shall, bury my father deep down into my mind”.

This sort of a horrid father isn’t a unique case in Taiwan, there was the story of a young pair of girls who were, raped by their father for over 200 times to date on the news.  This makes us wonder, is home, really, a safe harbor?

Of course N-O-T!  But, for children who had endured through abuse like this, it would be, very difficult for them, to recover, because the ones who’d betrayed them are the people they depended on (mommy and daddy???), like for this young woman, as she’d told her relatives, or her mother, they’d silenced her, because her father is a “reputable” man, when he’s actually, nothing MORE than that sheep, in wolf’s clothing.  But, this woman had finally, told her story, that, would be, the very FIRST step she took, to getting better, and, it will be, a long road to her full recovery ahead, but, she’d already, gotten past that most difficult part, and, there will surely, be more bumps in the road from here on out, but the worst is over…I can only hope, that for her, it is!

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About taurusingemini

All I have to say, I've already said it, and, let's just say, that I'm someone who's ENDURED through a TON of losses in my life, and I still made it to the very top of MY game here, TADA!!!
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