Breaking the gender norm beliefs here! A Q&A, translated…
Q: My Child’s Female Classroom Instructor Started Having an Affair with the Head of Class…
Continuing from our discussion of predatory instructor of last week, other than a lot of the cram school instructors who’d acted sexually inappropriate toward their female students, this can also happen, quite frequently too, in the regular middle schools, or schools with that competitiveness among the students. And, the predatory instructors aren’t necessarily all males, there are, also female predatory instructors in the society. I’d known of a case from a friend of mine.
The minor population of younger female instructors, would become familiarized, and even, develop a strong liking towards students who’d gone to them often to ask questions. The high-school aged boys, most become developed, and become handsome and tall; and, the female instructors may not have had the intentions to, but, slowly grown to fall in love with these young men, and, relied more on them, to help them with the odds and ends, and slowly, they’d become acquainted, and, maybe, they’d interacted, more closely and more often than they should too.
Back when my friend’s daughter was in high school, there was an English instructor who worked as a flight attendant before. After the first parent-teacher meeting, my friend told me about that beautiful female English instructor, said that she’d stressed, she would NEVER be inappropriate toward the male students in her class. My friend felt it was odd, I’d told her, perhaps, it’s because how other parents have their doubts, her being younger and beautiful, and those pubertal boys are with their raging hormones, and that, was why she’d needed to, make the verbal commitments to those parents.
But, her own declaration, became a prophecy. At the end of the school year, the female instructor was found, to have interacted inappropriately with the head of the class, and the reason why this burst out was, the head of the class saw the female instructor kissing another man passionately inside a car, and he’d gotten into a fight with that other man, and the other students and instructors from the school saw, and had to break them up, and that, was how the news got out.
And, as a result of the teachers who knew about it, they’d believed, that a verbal warning to the female instructor would suffice, otherwise, if the news gets out, it would damage the school’s reputation greatly, and they’d not wanted her to lose her job too. At the same time, the other teachers also counseled the head of the class that fell in love with the female English teacher.
A My Advice:
I’d told my friend, that she must tell the incident to the school, and they will then, take the matter more seriously, but my friend believed, that the incident was put an end to, there’s no need, to rouse anything back up again, and believed, that it may, affect her own daughter if everything went bust.
Or maybe, because the head of the class was a male, he’d reacted quite calmly after the incident, and he’d gotten into his first choice of university later on, it’s just, that I keep worrying, if this incident had, caused some shadows inside of him mind through the years or not.
So, this happens, these teens are having their hormones raging, and, when there’s a younger, good looking instructor, and when the instructor felt that deep attraction to a student in the class, they may go at it, and it’s still inappropriate, as the instructor IS an adult, and, taking advantage of someone who’s not yet developed fully in the MIND, is just, unethical and wrong, but gladly, this case worked out well, and heaven will only know, if the next case similar to this one will work out just as well, probably N-O-T!!!
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