Here’s, that black AND white, with NO grays in-between!!!
There is, a right, AND a wrong way to love someone, you may think, that the way you’d shown love for someone is right, because you were “show” the same measures of love by your own first PRIMARY attachment figures (guess W-H-O!), and so, for years on end, you kept believing, that the way they “loved” you was the right way, when those god DAMN idiotic parents still got ZERO clue of how to love their own young right (and, how old are they now??? 60, 70, 80 years-old???)…
The problem with the right and wrong way of showing love, is that because the ones that showed the love (call them the “doers”!), were loved, the EXACT same ways that they’re, loving their young, (b/c just like the GENES, behavioral patterns ALSO pass from one generation to the next!) and sometimes, that way may be, WRONG, and, those god DAMN, FUCKING (and your point being????), STUPID parents still got NO clue, ‘cuz they didn’t have a GOOD role model, and, if they didn’t have ANYBODY who were wonderful to them to model after, then, how can you expect them, to love their own young right? (Vicious cycle here!!!).
And sometimes, it takes a person, an ENTIRE lifetime, to finally learn, the RIGHT way to love someone, and by then, it may be, too late, because oh, your young no longer needed, or even WANT your love, ‘cuz you got none at the beginning, and so, they’d, LEAVE you in the cold, because hey, children, we do NOT forgive OR forget, we hold the grudges, until we’re all, SIX feet under!