She’d Accompanied Him Their Former Years of Hardships in Life & He Tells Her that His “Spare” is His One & Only

If you ask me, she should just FILE for divorce, and END her own miseries, but hey, what would I know, right???  In need of expert advice, a Q&A, translated…

Q: She’d Used a Very Bad Way, to Get Her Husband Back with Her, But Doesn’t Know How to Patch Things Up with Him Again…

Mrs. F at age fifty, had married an older schoolmate right out of college, his side of the family was poverty stricken, with many mouths to feed, he’s not that good looking either, at first, F’s parents were both against their union, but F had begged them, threatened to kill herself, and that, was how they’d come, to agree to allowing her to marry.

The New Years of her first year of marriage, F visited her mother-in-law’s house for the very first time, it was located, in a desolate, very far-off-the-map village in the mountains, she’d needed to cook the New Year’s Eve meals for twenty, thirty people, and, the older and younger sisters-in-law, as well as the younger brother-in-law all returned back home at various times, and, F, being the eldest daughter-in-law, needed to take care of the food preparations like she’s a master chef, preparing a wedding banquet, worked from the early mornings of New Year’s Eve until the depth of the night, she’d still not found her time to eat the meals, but, this sort of hardship, she’d, withstood, and, raised two good sons up.

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F had the foresight about her husband, this not-so-qualified husband of hers, in working hard for over twenty years, had not only become quite reputable, but also brought in a lot of earnings; but, this wonderful marriage, was shattered, by an accidental discover of her husband’s affair.

The woman her husband had an affair with was a married beautiful scholarly woman, they’d hit it so hard, that they’d openly showed their love for one another, and, as F went to confront her, she’d, refused to back out.  F asked her husband to come back to her, and, he’d told her, “She is my true love of my life”.  After F heard, she’d wanted to leap out of her residence, she’d gone out half way on the lanai of their over twentieth-floor resident, and, her husband can only promise to sever it with his affair.

What met was, she’d still, loved her husband deeply, and he’d told her, that his spare was the one and only true love for his life.  F was still, floating in this shock, and couldn’t find a place, to steady herself in.

A My Advice

The husband’s heart is no longer there, and F, at this turning point, had completely, sealed off the other woman (but I’m totally against the way she’d used).  Our demands of marriage often change with age, losing, getting it back, along with the assortments of ups and downs, usually made us change, after fifty, I recommend that F should be amicable, to stop keeping her husband on a tight leash, stop being so righteous, to do good things, to say good words, treat her husband well, as well as those around him to stop ruminating on this part of the past, so everything will get better.

So, the “expert” is telling this woman to just forgive AND forget about the betrayal of her husband, but how can she?  She’d stayed by him through the tough times, and now, he’d, betrayed her, and, said the most hurtful things, just to spite her, and, this marriage is, broken, and, there’s NO need to fix it, and, from where I’m sitting, this woman should just, CUT her losses, SUE this S.O.B. for divorce, and get her alimonies, and begin again!