Because this woman still kept forgiving him, and now, it’d, taken a toll on her, a Q&A, translated…
Q: He’d Acted Remorseful and Apologized Every Single Day, But I Just, Can’t Forgive OR Forget
Mrs. C, who’d been married for thirty-five years with grown children, at the end of last year, she’d, accidentally discovered that her husband had been cheating on her, and the hatred and displeasures toward what he did started, accumulating by the day.
She’d recalled the past six years, her husband would often vanish without a trace a lot, with the notes of “I’m going to workout, to shop, to fix the car, get my hair cut, or run errands to the banks”, and would be gone for hours on end, and, when she’d called him up, his cell phone would always have a busy signal, afterwards when she’d inquired him, he’d often told her, that he was on the phones with his older sister, or that the battery went dead. Although C had her doubts, but, she’d never really, checked into it, until one evening, she’d found the coat her husband accidentally didn’t carry into the room with him, that there was, a cell phone she’d never seen him use before, turning it out, the call records showed the same number, and, the text messages contained the sexually-illicit messages that he’d shared with another woman too.
C woke her husband up, and, everything busted open, and, the husband wasn’t the least stressed out, stated, that she was a volunteer mom, that he’d introduced her to work as a substitute at the elementary school, but she had, seduced him, and he’d not responded to her at all. C didn’t believe him, got the records of the calls from the phone company, and found, that on the days when her husband was away on business (probably when he’d spent time with her), he’d hotlined her almost daily, and, even on their family outings, he’d not forgotten, to call her up too.
When she imagined how long she’d been lied to by her husband, she’d felt this heart-wrenching pain inside, for over thirty odd years, she’d been, burning on both ends for the family and at work, she’d finally had a grandchild now, and this, had happened. Since the affair was busted, C’s husband stopped using that cell phone, cut off contact with his whore, and wrote his apologies in his diaries to beg for C’s forgiveness, to let it all pass, but, is it, even possible, for her to?
A My Advice
C doesn’t want to get a divorce, and, whether C’s husband was real when he’d apologized or not, he’d managed to save C’s face. It surely hurts, being betrayed by your spouse, but, C needs to just, forgive her husband, and let herself off the hook easy too. And, it’s best, that both of them put those days of spying, catching him in bed with another behind, only by letting go, will they be able to, start over again.
But, WHY would a woman want to, after all, this LOSER had cheated on her for SIX whole years (one year away from the “itch”!!!), and, no matter how hard this LOSER apologized to his own wife, and, although she’s battling on whether or not she should trust him again, it doesn’t matter, because, there’s now, this, HUGE CRACK in their marriage, and, even IF they manage to patch things up, nothing will EVER be the same again, so, I would recommend, that they should just, DIVORCE, and the woman can finally, leave ALL of this BULLSHIT behind her! But hey, that, is just MY views on the matter here…