Nothing’s finalized until their “I do’s” here, translated…
My neighbor, Mrs. Chang’s daughter, after she’d started having series of conflicts with her fiancée, she’d originally thought, that this was what they’d called, “pre-wedding jitters”, so she’d, worked hard, at mediating the situation between her daughter and her soon-to-be son-in-law, in the end, she’d learned, that her daughter felt, that her husband-to-be wasn’t not the man whom she’d wanted to spend the rest of her life with, and so, she’d, opened up about it to him, and the man couldn’t deal with how everything’s already set up, and she was becoming, a runaway bride, that, was why they’d started arguing, endlessly.
As the woman refused to get married, the man’s family also got angered, and told their son to give up the marriage, Mrs. Chang gave back the dowry, and covered the losses of the gift baskets, and gave the man’s side of the family some money for their loss, and halted the wedding that was supposed to happen next week.
rather than running out on her wedding day, you’d much rather break up before, not my photograph…
Seeing how embarrassed Mrs. Chang was, about this wedding that couldn’t make it, I’d shared my younger brother’s story with her. After my younger brother decided to marry his long-time girlfriend, in order to usher in the new bride, my parents, they’d, remodeled their house completely; but, the two of them got into a serious argument as they were selecting the clothes, and, the woman stated that she didn’t want to go through with the wedding plans, and my younger brother agreed with her, out of anger too, and the two of them, split up.
Not long thereafter, it came the news of this ex-fiancée of his being married and had children, as we’d all felt awful for my younger brother, felt that he was taken advantage of by his ex-fiancée, my brother held a different view on things, believed, that rather than marrying for the sake of face, instead, he should think things over clearly, that way, he could, avoid the troubles of being divorced later on.
And now, my younger brother and his wife are living happily, he’d often told us, that he was very grateful at how his ex chose not to marry him, although back then, he’d known, that they weren’t, fitted for each other, but, because everything WAS already set, he’d not dared said anything, but, the woman got the courage to say “STOP”, that was, what gave them both the chance, to find the right woman and man to marry.
Or maybe, Mrs. Chang needed to withstand the pressures from all her relatives and friends right now, but, think about it, her daughter had been very brave, in her decision, NOT to go through with the marriage. Finding that the man she was about to marry, wasn’t “the one she was destined to love”, so long as it’s before the contract of marriage is signed, there’s still time, to slam on that brake, I believe, that this, is being responsible for oneself and the person you’re marrying too.
looks like uncertainties to me, what do you think??? Not my photograph…
So, nothing’s really final, until “I do”, and this just shows, that there’s, NO shame in pulling the plugs on a marriage that’s underway, just because everything’s already planned out, you’d set a date, bought the dress and the tux, that still means, that if you two feel that you weren’t right for each other, you can still pull the plugs, and this is, WAY better compared to marrying someone who’s unfitted for you, and the two of you ended up getting divorced later on, isn’t it???
Life, the Obstacle Course 