Q: She’d Married an Abusive Man Because She Got Pregnant, But Nobody on Her Side of the Family Had Offered Any Help to Her…
Ms. J’s cousin’s husband is very violent in nature, recently, he’d become worse, even gotten physical, PUSHED and SHOVED his own wife, it’d worried Ms. J very much.
She wrote, that only after two short months of her cousin and her husband dating, they’d gotten married because she was pregnant, and her cousin’s husband claimed that he has what it takes, to provide for his family on his own, and her cousin quit her job and started working as a full-time housewife. In order to have company for their eldest child, they’d had a second, and a third child who are three and one year olds now. The children came one right after the next, and, taking care of three young children is trying enough, but, it didn’t matter if Ms. J.s cousin was sleep deprived, at the most, her husband would only make the bottles, to help feed his own children, or, hold them for a little bit, or buy the meals, other than that, he doesn’t do ANYTHING.
this, is NO way to live!!! And yet, a lot of women can’t get themselves, OR their childlren out of this sort of bad situations, photo from online…
J’s cousin had told her, “It’s like I’m a hired maid for him, I’d needed to take care of the children, and all the household chores, and, he’d not even CARED if I’d fallen ill, or if I’d not had the time to eat. Other than the paparazzi, he cared about NOTHING else, and, as I’d told him about the kids, he’d shown the least bit of interest, it feels like I’m living, with a stranger!”
Based off of what her cousin had told her, when the children started crying, her husband would start cussing; and when he’s in a bad mood or when things didn’t go his way, he’d start screaming and yelling, or throw things in the house. On the day her mother-in-law died, he’d pushed her, and gotten on her case for no reasons at all, he’d even kicked a hole onto their bedroom doors. Her cousin had taken everything, because of the children. And, although the elders of the man’s family once showed care and concerns toward the matter, but Ms. J’s cousin ALWAYS put on a good face, and told them, that ALL couples fight.
Her cousin had phoned home to ask for help, but, her uncle insisted, that she’d needed to, handle it with her husband herself, J didn’t know how to help her older cousin either.
A My Advice
Although J’s cousin’s own family didn’t do anything, because they didn’t do enough, or didn’t even WANT to bother, or maybe, they believe, that a married daughter is a bucket of water shoved out the door, not wanting to give any MORE help to her. So, J’s cousin had better find a marriage counselor in her area for help, to see if the two of them can reach an understanding.
silenced! Not my photograph…
I believe, that if J’s cousin plans on a divorce, the three children would be the biggest problems. She’s probably NOT going to be able to support ALL three of her children in the moment? Communication is absolutely necessary, with someone who’s there to mediate the matter, not getting emotional, have a discussion with her husband, to see if things will change.
I highly doubt that even WITH the mediation, anything’s gonna change for the better, chances are, the husband will get angrier that the woman disclosed the family’s private situations, and, will become, more violent on her, and this woman’s trials are exacerbated by the traditional Asian beliefs of daughters are NOT raised to be one’s own, because they will get married off, and, become someone else’s, and that’s just WRONG! If you can’t count on your own family to offer you the support you need, then, what GOOD are they???
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