From the Doctor’s Office at a hospital, translated…
As she’d come in to get treated by me, Ms. Tang’s breast cancer had, metastasized to her bones. Because a lot of the breast cancer patients showed multiple emotional difficulties, so the very first time she’d come in, I’d helped her sort through her relations with her family of origin and with her husband. A month later, she came in for her follow-up, the tumors in her breasts were getting better, her pains, less severe; so the second time she’d come in to see me, we’d tried to dig deeper to the causes of her illnesses.
Ms. Tang practiced the beliefs of Buddhism for years on end, and kept encouraging her friends and families to better themselves by following the teachings of Buddhism, but her loved ones never accepted her trying to convey the importance of the Buddhist religion to them, this had, disappointed her. Other than feeling disappointed toward others, Ms. Tang was very harsh on herself too, as she’d discovered that something wasn’t done to perfection, she’d, immediately needed to change it, and, if she didn’t improve toward the direction she’d wanted to go quickly enough, then, she’d get mad at herself.
not my painting…
I’d told Ms. Tang, that it’s a good thing to help others, but, we MUST respect that everybody has a separate speed of coming to acceptance to things. All lives are formed, after the karmic cycles, some people are old souls, that learned very fast; of course, there are others, who are younger souls, who’d needed, to take their time in learning, so, it would be more difficult for them to change, it would also, take them longer too, and we can only, show accept, and love all lives.
Love is just love, it shouldn’t have any strings attached. If it’s something one can’t even accomplish, how can you expect, that with a few words from us, and achieve so much. We don’t need to strive for perfection, and, there’s NO perfection in this world. On everyone we come across, we would see parts of our selves, reflected, and we must learn to love all those parts of our selves, whether it be lazy, selfish, greedy, weak, brave, generous, even IF it’s a less-than-perfect version of our selves, there are, parts worth our loves.
Ms. Tang’s problem lies in that she can’t accept and love herself unconditionally, and so, naturally, she couldn’t accept and love others unconditionally too, and, what we really need to learn is, to love our selves as we are, to accept the selves, even IF we’re not close to perfection, or not worked hard enough, we’d still needed to, learn, to accept our selves, to NOT compare our selves to someone else, to not judge. And if you can achieve that, then, problems that you encounter with someone else, wouldn’t be problematic any longer.
The cancer cells inside of Ms. Tang, ARE the parts of her self she wanted to get rid of desperately, because she’d felt this deep-rooted disgust toward herself, and, for a long time, the illness was, formed. Learning to love and accept everything that’s happened to you, with NO discriminations, even if you see all the awful parts of man, you’d still needed to, accept the fact, that these bad things exist. Because worries and the Buddhi is two sides of the same mirror, like greed and giving are too.
The one who can treat and help oneself heal, is NOBODY else but the individual her/himself, and I clearly understood, that when my patients got better, it wasn’t because I’d treated the illnesses, but because the patients saw their own problems, found the root to their illnesses, and were willing to change, so that, was what gave them the opportunities to heal up properly.
I’d asked Ms. Tang, to tell herself, “I can accept my self, I don’t need to press myself too hard, I don’t need to strain myself”, shoving a ton of things that made you unhappy at yourselves every single day, it would be, impossible, to expect oneself to be happy. And, if you feel, that you’re getting hard on yourselves again, do calm yourselves down, thank your selves properly, because, by being aware of these thoughts, you can remind yourselves, to return to the origins of love, just see it, there’s NO need to beat yourselves over what you’d seen, or encountered.
The beauties of life come from the mercies and the love, the comfortable feel of life comes from accepting completely, and, just allowing things to develop as they’re supposed to.
This, would be a VERY good attitude toward life, because we are often, too hard on ourselves, striving for that perfect ten, and, if we are always striving for perfection, then, we wind ourselves up too tight, and, when we wind ourselves up too tight, then, our bodies would start to let out those, warning signs, and, if we don’t take heed of these warning signs from our bodies, to give ourselves a BREAK, then, these warning signs may develop into something life threatening like CANCER, so, by this physician’s beliefs, cancer IS caused by your state of mind, it’s more psychological than it is biological, and, it’s true to a certain level.
the sketch of something, expressing that strong sense of self-loathing…from online.
Life, the Obstacle Course 