There are, better ways you can teach your young right from wrong, other than SHAMING them, parents, but, that, is how we were brought up, being shamed, so naturally, we’d, shamed our own young to “train” them too, this, is a VICIOUS cycle here, from the Front Page Sections, translated…
There was a young girl who took her mother’s money without her mother’s permissions, and she was led by her mother, with a sign around her neck, “I’m a Thief”, and made to kneel in front of a super convenience shop, and the members of the public saw and notified the police.
I want to share an experience I was involved in before: there was a hole, burned in the artificial grass of the school I worked in, and, through the surveillance footage, the school found, that it was someone who was once a student there, and, as the school interviewed him, he’d admitted to what he’d done too. Later on, I’d gone to visit him in juvenile detention hall, asked him about the truth, he’d sworn to me, that he wasn’t the one who’d burned the artificial grass at school, “So, if it wasn’t you, then, why did you admit to it back then?” “Principal, you all believed I was awful, so, I’m going to be, as AWFUL as you make me out to be.” That, was one of the failures in education: it’d blocked the child from changing his own actions for the better, and, this will only make the child behave worse, not better.
There’s the “Pygmalion Effect” of education, how we expect our children to perform, and, changed our expectations into actions and words, in treating the child, then, the child will develop the way we’d expected them to. But, if we treated a child like he’s a thief, then, he may grow up to become a grander scale burglar.
Good parents don’t humiliate their children, instead, when a child misbehaves, they use their words and being good examples to SHOW their children how to behave well, and giving their young a chance to change, and when the child improves, giving the children encouragements and a thumbs up, that, is the right way to teach the younger generations.
Yeah, but that is ideal, I mean, because we’re all raised, by being shamed when we did something awful as we were growing up, so naturally, we would, pass this “culture of shaming” down onto our own young, and, it’s not just the separate families that are responsible, but the grander scale of the whole education forum that should change.