Driven by Fear to Behave

There’s this, steady kind of, never ending, always there, kind of fear, that’s right behind me, chasing me, and every time I’d, eased up just a little, it’d, hounded me down.

Driven by fear to behave, that, is how we are all raised, remember how back when you were a kid, you’d acted up, what happened after that? You get disciplined, immediately, and, NO adults EVER tried to get to just WHY exactly you were, misbehaving, did they? Of course not, as the adults already got TOO much on their plates: work, marriage, balancing that god DAMN checkbook, budgeting the wages, so we’d still have some spending cash left before the end of the month???

And so, the adults used FEAR as a tactic, to MAKE their children behave. They’d taken out that long whipping stick, and point at the kid who’s acting up, and said, “You’d better behave, or, you’ll earn yourself a good ol’ fashioned spanking!”

But had you ever considered, that maybe, the way you’re “training” your own children to behave right now, was the EXACT same method that were used on you by your own parents? I mean, maybe, you wouldn’t HIT your kid, as physical abuse is NEVER okay in a child’s life, and, sometimes, let’s face it, that kid just makes us SOOOOOOOOOOOOOO angry, that we want to, grab him by the feet, hang him upside down, and WHOOP his ass, because that, was how you watched your parents react to you being a kid when you were just a kid yourselves, and, you can’t realize that, because you, parents are now, RULED by your own emotions!

Driven by fear to behave, so, what would the kid do, after the “factor” of that needed fear is taken away? Oh, that kid’s gonna run wild, and start wreaking HAVOC in the house, because you, as the parents, NEVER explained W-H-Y you’d expected her/him to behave, because you thought you can’t reason with a kid, so, you’d, become, barbaric, without realizing, that kids are learning from observing you, and, if you’re barbaric parents, then, how the HELL can you expect to have civilized children, who behave themselves, most of the times, ‘cuz let’s face it, you can’t ask a kid to be on good behavior all the time, you need to allow them some downtime, you DO know that, right, parents???

And yeah, this, is still from someone who’s NEVER been a mother, biologically, unless you want to count those two dogs I’d trained…