The love and devotion of a husband to his wife, in sickness and in health, ‘til death! Translated…
My wife because of a brain stem injury from a car crash, had become demented for twenty-six years to date, the two of us, went from youth, and are now, walking into the golden years now, in this not at all short period, id’ worked hard, put up with the difficulties in life, I’d wanted to, use all of my heart and strengths, to take good care of my wife who’s become, demented, and because of this, as I’d turned fifty-five back in 2013, I’d decided, to retire from my public office, retired early.
My wife who’s become demented is very emotionally unstable, sometimes she’d gotten up in the middle of the nights, and went to the living room to watch television, and she’d turned up the volume too loud, causing the rest of the household to not sleep well, she’d also gotten angry a lot, with NO patience, no sense of security either, totally codependent, and would, cling to me tightly every single day, making it hard for me to move around too.
And, she’d become, unstable due to her car accident, she’d lose her balance easily, trips easily too, and in order to prevent her from hurting herself when she tripped, as I was getting the house built up, id’ asked the construction workers, to set the first floor up as a handicap space, so she can get around easily, and had them added the handrails in the bathrooms too, so she wouldn’t trip and fall, because of her unsteadiness as she goes to the toilet, and bought the walker to help her get around. Because the demented is slow to move around, in order to prevent her from wetting herself, not getting to the bathrooms on time, I’d encouraged her to wear adult diapers, and, it’d helped improved her physical and psychological health.
In order to help slow down the deterioration process, I’d not just taken her to her hospital appointments, to get her regular checkups and her meds, I’d also hoped to get time to breathe a bit, so, from Monday to Friday, I’d taken her to the Department of Sanitation’s Tsao-Tun Nursing Home’s Elderly Daycare Center. This unit was very well built up, with a professional team of medical experts, not only did they provide the members of the community with the medical care, they would also hold a once-a-month family support group, for caretakers to share their experiences, it’d allowed me to gain more knowledge and techniques to care for my demented wife.
And although I’d been taking care of my wife who’d become demented for twenty-six years now, but I’d never felt helpless, and, although she couldn’t be as active as she was when she was younger, but, seeing how carefree she is how healthy she is in the mind and body, I’m, more than satisfied.
So, this, is the important in getting the social support that one needs, and, this husband did EVERYTHING he knows, to help his wife who became demented due to her car wreck live better, and, this, is the love and devotions of a man to his wife, in sickness and in health!