Parenting advice from the experts here, translated…
The sociologist stressed, that growing up in a multifaceted world can help the individuals adapt more to the world as they are older, and become even more successful in life. In the Child Development theories however, the theorists believed, that parents exert a greater influence, whether it be in setting up a system of values, establish a sense of morality, or passing on the knowledge.
The kids now are born in smaller families, and, perhaps, the influences that parents are exerting on their young is way too much. When my child was between one and four, he’d gotten ill a lot. Back then, my son was taken care of by his nanny, his nanny’s friends and families, grandma, aunt, along with the teachers in the kindergarten. My son is now, four and a half, and if you ask her, “Which one is mommy?”, he’d tell you, “I have THREE mommies”, if counting the nanny, there would be, four. We’d taken turns, looking after him, loving him, so he can, grow up healthy and happy.
And now, he’d become this kid whose most widely used phrase was, “It’s okay”, he’s so very forgiving toward others, he isn’t afraid of tripping and falling down. And, when he sees someone who’s ill, he’d console the person, “Whatever you need, I’m there for you!”, or, “Did you have your meds today?”
How will the experience of children’s interaction with families, neighbors, friends affect the choices he makes in the future? I really can’t say, I can only help him set up a balance temperament, and a healthy body, along with help him learn to fight for what he believes in, and the ability to fight for what he believes in.
After all, we grew up, in very different social environment, I was born in the prohibition times, where there’s only one set of rules for education, and career developments, so long as you have a higher education, you are, guaranteed a high income. After the prohibition era, the values and the society conflicted hard, there are ample opportunities to receive higher education, and, those who were wronged, had now, received their separate justices; my past experiences had, made me into who I am right now, but, I don’t want all of my life’s experiences, to become determinants of my own son’s future. He will have his separate sets of social problems, and he should be able to, fight for what he believes in, and the pursuits of happiness, based off of his generation.
My students from my adult course, that after they’d returned back to college to study, they’d no longer focused that much on their own children’s grades anymore, this, was a good development I’d never, anticipated, because they’d now learned, that doing well in school doesn’t guarantee a good future. And those roads that parents had paved with the best of intentions for their young, may not be what the children want for themselves.
So, all of this is still saying, to LET your own children have their own lives, set up the rules when they were younger, because when they’re so young, they’d needed the structures, but, as they get older, you can let go of some of the strict rules you’d made sure they’d followed, because as they grow older, they will be able to make decisions on what suits them best, and, although you parents have the best of intentions for your young, your ways aren’t necessarily the best for them…
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