Becoming the Completed Self is a Circle: Don’t Live in Others’ Eyes, and Don’t be the Weapons that May Hurt Others

From an online blog in Chinese I’m a subscriber to, translated by me…

Do you often feel, that being oneself, is sometimes, very difficult?

There would always BE whispers, glares, that, blocked your paths, making it more difficult, for you, to move forward. Sometimes, it’d, make you feel, hard to breathe. But, what is, the “be myself” you’re searching for? What is meant by being oneself, is NOT totally letting your selves loose, but, to be able to extend oneself, in a comfortable state of mind and being.

not my picture

Although we can’t, live away from a society, we can, however, CHOOSE to sort through those bad looks, awful words that others are saying to and about us, and to NOT return the way others treated you back to them.

“Being oneself” is like a circle, surrounding oneself with this gentleness, also, rounding up the others around you too. If you’re like a sharpened sword constantly, and cut others all the time, then, this “becoming oneself” would be more of a stubbornness that you can’t get rid of. You are, your own person, and, you must, be with you throughout your days, so, finding a balanced state in this world, where you can just be, is the BEST way of “becoming” oneself.

Don’t Allow Anybody Else to be the Determinant of Who You Become

Don’t allow anybody’s behaviors, to dictate the person you are, don’t live in other people’s perceptions of who you ought to be.

We can’t make everybody like us all the time, so, don’t spent all your excess energies, to please someone else, to feign compliance. There are, priorities in life, and, people’s importance to you can be ranked as well. You have the right to choose what is important to you, and what you’re focuses are. Just make those who you feel are important to you like you, there’s no need to please everybody else.

taking the mask off finally!!!  Not my photograph…

Everyone experiences things differently, have varied views on things, and, because of this, everybody has a different direction in her/his own life to undertake. If you get along with someone, then, you get along with the individual, and if you don’t, you don’t, there’s no need, to try to get along with those you just can’t get along with. Everything you’re doing now, should only comply to your own virtues, answer to your future selves, nothing more, with the future you, in agreeance with the current you.

Trying to be brave and coming to terms, are two separate issues. Trying to be brave is more like “you don’t necessary agree with the viewpoints, but you’re saying that you do agree”; but, if your mind is in agreeance with the values, then, it’s this sense of acceptance you’d reached.

And this, is basic common sense, of how to treat your selves kindly, how to love yourselves, how to treat yourselves well, and, if you can follow the advice from above, then, you’d be, ahead of most of the people around you, as these rules are easy to know, but, not at all, simple to do.